My sister made my life miserable all the time we lived together. She was “the pretty girl” in the family” and that gave her a lot of privilege and made her feel entitled to treat everyone like subordinates, especially me, the inadequate, odd looking younger sister.
When we were in school, she did not even talk to me. She was the popular girl with the boys and even the teachers liked her. She always had a popular best friend to hang out with.
Her vanity caught up with her and even though she had many boyfriends, she married at 33 and divorced one year later. She now gained weight and became insecure.
She is 36 now. She is always in debt because she always had to buy expensive things that she could not afford.
She came on vacation last year and she was bossing me around all the time. We argued, we still don’t get along. She went crazy shopping here and she is still trying to pay.
The point is that I asked her to move in with me because I feel that I should help her because she is my sister and I think she is stuck in her job and her life there. Besides, I am tired of living by myself in a foreign country for four years. She is lots of fun and adventurous and my son loves that. I also feel that she could do great things in here financially and it would be easier for both of us.
When we were in our 20’s we bought a condo together. It was a nightmare in a way because she was always late with her payments.
Two things worry me the most: having to deal with someone who thinks of me as her inferior and who loves to live beyond her means.
I just think that it is my moral obligation to help her out and I also think it would be a good thing to have family around.
I already paid for her plane ticket and made some repairs to my car so that she can use it. I will have to buy a new car for me.
I will be careful to track expenses so that she can repay me. She has a problem remembering her debts.
03/03/09 I chatted on msn with my sis last night. She really pissed me off because she is asking me if I have any job interviews for her yet! she is not even here and she is already treating my like I am her employee or something. I have already explained to her that to get a job she needs to get her ass here first! she is not realistic. She said she is going to pay all her debts in Mexico before she gets here. There is not such a thing as her paying her debts! she has lived in debt since she was 20!
I am going to get some money soon and that worries me because I know that she will try to borrow money that she never pays back.
I am very willing to help her establish herself here but I am not her f. agent to go and find her a job. She has to do that!
I am going to send her an e-mail reminding her to be realistic and that I can only do so much for her! :( :(
I also chatted with my mother who complained about her high-blood pressure and threw a pity party like she always does. How come she does not excercise at all or eat better? or take her medication without pretending to be the victim all the time?
I sent her money last month and I dont mind doing that but at some point she has to take care of herself!
I love my family but I can’t stand them at all! :(
