stop depending on others for my happiness

At what point would I consider this “done”?

I guess I own my feelings more now, I don’t see anyone as responsible for my inner state but me. I don’t imagine “if this was different” as much as I used to. I guess i could mark this as done, really.

But i won’t just yet. It’s good to leave some things marked as undone just to remind yourself not to move backwards.

it’s not that i depend exactly on other people to be happy per se, more that i let stuff that people do, or don’t do or say influence how i feel about myself a lot.

I guess this is because i sometimes feel i would never say or do that to them, which is self righteous and petty. Also, i am a sucky person sometimes the same as anyone, so i don’t have any right to be self righteous or self pitying when i feel abandoned.

If i was able to deal with my fears better it wouldn’t seem like i needed people to be there for me pretty much every other day.
That has to be exhausting. I never ask for more than i’ve done or given or would do, i think. But i seem to ask very often, lately, and i wish that would change.