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Yesterday, I came home from work to find 50 pages of questions in my mailbox. Not just any questions, but questions from my ex-wife’s attorney: “Interrogatories.” Questions about where I spend my money, where I earn my money, whether or not I’m seeing a psychiatrist. All told, over 150 questions designed to uncover hidden money, embarrass, harrass, and ruffle feathers.

This, from a woman who spent half of our marriage lying about her alchoholism and drug abuse, keeping herself drunk or high all day long, even while at home with our kids…

Read more at http://loremipsum.wordpress.com/2008/08/26/the-meaning-of-the-word-interrogatory/

In an interesting episode last weekend, it was admitted that the ex was dragging out the divorce because she didn’t want to get divorced. Crazy. I was very clear that there was no chance at all that we’d get back together. After a few hours, I got a call that she’d stop holing up the process and is willing to move on. Finally.

She should be my “ex-wife,” but is hanging up the process for financial gain.

My wife decided a long time ago she didn’t want to be married. She went about dismantling our marriage in every way she could dream up, from addiction to physical and verbal abuse, and finally culminating in infidelity admittedly designed to finally drive me away for good.

Out of my own idealism and commitment, I hung on for years longer than it was healthy or self-respecting to do so. She moved out six months ago. The only thing left to do dismantle is the legal construct of the marriage that never did and never will thrive.