fall in love with the right person

I have fallen in love with a great guy. He is everything that I have been looking for and more. The best part about him is that I have not had to give up who I am in order to be in this relationship. I am the person that I want to be and he has never once tried to change that. I really feel that I have found the right person and know that he feels the same about me.

Although I am not yet in love, I have met a great person who I am really enjoying spending time with and getting to know. My idea with this goal was not to limit myself to that one perfect person, but to start looking for the right kind of guys rather than the wrong ones that I have been going for in the past. I think I have had a lot of time being by myself and learning who I am and I think it is causing me to be a lot more confident and open in this new relationship. I am not sweating the small stuff, but instead letting things move on a natural course. Even if this isn’t the one, I think I have accomplished finding out who I am. Therefore I know that I have a lot to offer and with or without someone, I will be happy.

I have spent a lot of time over the last 9 months working on myself. I have figured out who I am and what things I enjoy. I think I am finally at a place that I am ready to start dating again. I feel very confident with myself. I have learned to be happy being single and therefore feel that I will only get into a relationship if I feel it is right. I don’t need anyone to make me complete. A significant other is just a bonus to a already rich life!

I went on a few dates with a guy recently. At the beginning I thought we had a lot of things in common. The more I got to know him, the more I realized that he wasn’t really being completely honest with me. We are actually pretty different. I decided I needed to be honest with him and let him know that I wasn’t interested in more than just a friendship, and hopefully now because I was upfront we can try to just be friends (he agreed with it). As much as it would be nice to be with someone, I don’t want to settle in order to just say I have a boyfriend.

So I went out on a date with a guy last weekend. He is very nice and would probably be a very good guy to continue seeing, but for some reason I just don’t seem to be interested. I keep thinking that I want to find a relationship, but I think before I can do that I have to resolve all the issues I have due to baggage from past relationships. Until I do that, I think I will sabotage all potential relationships.

I am so sick of dating the wrong guys. My problem is that I am going out with guys that give the impression of being a “nice guy”, but then they end up being complete jerks! All I want is to find someone who is honest in good times and bad. Someone who will respect and appreciate me for who I am. And someone who will love me as much as I love them. Is that too much to ask?