be more positive

I would never say that I have completely become a positive person, but I have definitely become more positive than when I started this goal. I am finally able to let myself be happy. I never allowed myself to feel that before because I figured if I was happy then something bad was going to happen to end the happiness. I have now learned that by being positive I can live my life to the fulliest and can focus on the things that are important instead of focusing on the negative. I always will have days where the negative is overwhelming, but I hope I will always remember that things could be worse!

I have been very positive lately, but I feel like there will always be that negative side pulling me down. I have been told by at least 3 people that they have noticed that I seem more comfortable with myself and happier lately. That is a huge compliment. Although I don’t know if I can really count this goal completed yet. I guess I will keep working on positive thinking and maybe know for sure that I have completed this goal soon!

I love writing the positive journal. It makes me sit and think and the end of the day all the good things that happened rather than focusing on the bad. It’s almost a way for me to flush out the not so good stuff. I even had a friend comment on how happy I have seemed the last couple days. That is probably one of the best compliments I have had in a long time!

I decided, through a suggestion by my phychologist, that I am going to start journaling again. This time though instead of writing everything that is going wrong, I am going to write at least 3-5 things that have been good over a couple days. Things that have made me happy, accomplishments I have achieved, and things that are making me appreciate life. I quit journaling because everything was negative. Hopefully this will help me record the good things in my life and make me realize that everything isn’t so bad!

I have been a lot more positive lately. I think the biggest thing for me was identifying the fact that I was being so negative. I am aware of it now, so I don’t do it as much. If someone is being negative I try to find the positive in the situation. I can’t say I do this 100% of the time, but I am working on it. I have been happier the last month or so than I have been in about 9 months.

I will say one thing, I am definitely more positive when I am active. I have started running and biking again and it is amazing how 30 minutes of a workout can make the rest of the day feel that much better.

I definitely have not reached this goal yet, but everyday I think I am getting closer. I had an ex-boyfriend tell me today that he got engaged. A couple months ago that would of crushed me. Because of trying to stay positive and trying to do things I wouldn’t normally do, two weekends ago I spent an entire day with him and his girlfriend and found that I really like her. I am very happy that the two of them found each other cause they are perfect together. So instead of being jealous, I am really happy for them and glad that they can include me into their group of friends that they are excited to tell.

I have really been working on this goal. I was at a point where everything that I thought or said was negative. I can’t say that I am not still negative at times, but just being aware of it and changing the way I think of things is helping. I am trying to see the positive in things first. Also, not letting the bad things bring me down as much. I have my health, good friends, a good job, and loving family. I need to focus on that instead of the stuff I don’t have.

I went into last Friday night very negatively. I was suppose to meet up with a friend to go out and everyone else who was suppose to go with us backed out. I really didn’t want to go. I didn’t think I would have a good time, but I went anyway. I forced myself to just do it and try to have a good time. It ended up being a blast. A friend that I didn’t think would come, showed up and hung out with us all night. I bumped into another friend who I haven’t seen in almost 10 years. It was definitely worth going. I need to keep reminding myself that if I just stay at home and don’t try things I won’t be able to achive a positive attitude. The more I push myself to do things the more people I meet and the more fun I have.

One thing I have started doing is to find one quote that promotes happiness, positivity, or motivation each day and send that quote out to friends who I feel will benefit from hearing it. Today’s quote was “The first recipe for happiness: Avoid too lengthy meditations on the past.”