I was only with my bf for about 4 1/2 months. During this whole time, he had a very unstable job and almost NO money. He’s way in over his head in debt and is trying to find a better job…but in this economy, he’s had no luck so far. Anyways, on a personal level, he’s a fairly sweet guy, dependable, and honest. We’ve gotten along pretty well. We’ve had a few arguments – I can be kind of clingy and his lack of money bugs me a bit since I end up paying for almost everything. But overall, I think things were pretty good. Just last week he offered to stay at my place during the day and help clean/organize it after my move.
Well, he dumped me a few days later and it sort of seemed out of the blue. He kept saying it was just a bad time in his life to be in a relationship and that things were too unstable and that I was adding to the stress of the rest of his life. However, he also said that he didn’t really love me – he THOUGHT he did, but his gut was telling him he didn’t. He told me he still wanted to be friends, but I told him I wasn’t sure if I could do that.
So, my question is, do you think he’ll come back to me if I avoid contact and focus on bettering myself in the meantime? I’m not even 100% sure WHY I want him back. He wasn’t very romantic and not the most attentive guy. BUT…he’s a good guy with a good heart and good intentions. He seemed to really care about me and seemed like he’d never intentionally hurt me. Even though it does feel like he just ripped my heart out and stomped on it.
If we had been together for 2 years, I think there’s definitely a chance he would come back to me. But do you think after only 4 1/2 months it’s possible? Neither of us had dated anyone in 4-5 years before meeting each other. Any help or advice is appreciated!
