Cry and you’re a whiner that’s overstayed his welcome. I can understand why. I really can. Who wants to be around someone that brings them down? Nobody. And since we all have a limited amount of time to go mulling about the planet, we simply can’t waste our precious seconds with those who are just too low
Well, I say BULLSHIT! Yeah, we might have better things to do than to be brought down by someone’s annoying whining, but sometimes the annoying whining is the only thing keeping the person going. By the time the whining stops, the person may have stopped as well.
It’s true, some people just like to complain. Some people just want attention. But maybe it’s because they know they need it but they don’t know how to ask for it. Maybe they aren’t assholes, maybe they are in pain.
I met a young lady the other day at www.critiquecircle.com. She submitted a story that she listed as a “memoir.” The lady in the story was in her early twenties and had the bad habit of calling 911 with the false report of a young girl being sexually molested. The authorities would come and find only her. She’d admit she made the call and they’d threaten to have her arrested for impeding their lifesaving work and then leave.
I don’t know if her story was real anymore than I know if she was real. I only saw her words in a white box on my computer screen. But I think it’s sad that someone so obviously in need of help would be ignored because she asked for it in the wrong way.
The bottom line is that not everybody knows how to function in our complex society. Even those who have found a moderate or greater level of success don’t always know how to deal with the many obstacles that can appear. They might not know where to turn. They might not know who to ask, how to ask, or even what to ask for. Does that mean we should let them fall by the wayside?
If you see someone looking for attention, do you wonder why they are seeking it? Do you assume they are just a troublemaker or do you wonder what pain they are trying to escape from? If someone is so lonely or so scared that the only way they can think of to get attention is to become destructive, they need our help and our love, not our disgust.
I don’t mean to be preachy and I have my own reasons for writing this. You may agree or you may disagree. I respect both possibilities, but at the very least, I hope you have pause for thought the next time you see someone acting up. You may notice they are sadly lacking in something that you have in abundance—kindness.