This is something I’ve been dealing with for years, and unfortunately it still goes on to this day. Who is currently mad at, or not speaking to, whom may change, but the song remains the same, and the cycle of hurt and anger unfortunately perpetuates itself, eventually affecting the younger kids.
Thankfully, I have been able to experience a great deal of healing through Christ, but I fully admit it can be a daily struggle not to get sucked into the fighting and bitterness that still goes on so often, and so I have to pray for the ability to step back, and see all of it for what it really is – people who have been hurt and don’t know how to find healing or find constructive ways to deal with the past.
Therapy, and in some cases medication, are definitely things God can use to heal and bring people to a place where they can see an deal with things more clearly and rationally, but by themselves, they only address the symptoms of the problem. What really needs to happen is for God to change hearts – that is the way TRUE healing will take place.
I pray every day that the members of my family can begin to heal from past wounds, learn to forgive one another and most importantly let go. We each need to have God show us where we are part of the problem, so that we may become that change we wish to see in others.
It is my fervent hope and prayer that one day we can all hopefully love each other despite our differences and failings as sinful human beings, and once again be a united family.
