restore my spirit

I have been looking at my things list and see that I have quite a few that are closely related to each other. I think its time to clean up my list. The feel, do and be goals do reflect my spirit. I will say that it had been crushed. After going through the process of the events of my life, my spirit feels as if it is gathered again and able to sit up for longer periods of time. I do realize that its going to take that “time” everyone (and myself) tells you about to grow stronger. There is only way way to go and that is up. :)

around me of things that are me and reflect who I am. Those things I want around me. I don’t normally put stock in “things”, especially since things were taken from me.
I had bought new living room furniture that is what I like. I didn’t ask anyone what their thoughts were. :)
Pictures are going up on the walls and furniture in its place. It’s coming along quite nicely.

I knew but didn’t know the words to describe what was going on and how I would I know if my spirit was restored.
Last Friday, my spirit stumbled with a bit of news I received. Even though I knew in my heart of hearts that what I had been hoping for would not come to pass. Still my spirit felt like it took another punch to the gut.
At least my spirit was low so that it didn’t need to go back down far. Even though with having moments that I feel really happy again. You know that at some point it will have to ease down to some sort of normality.
I suppose this is a reminder that I need to keep my mind and hear to it to restore my spirit by keeping a focus on the positives in my life even though I feel that there is so much uncertainty and keep on putting goals out in front of me.

By Annie Gottlieb regarding common energy drains -

Here are 8 common energy drains—and how to fix them:

1. Energy drain: Other people’s expectations
Are you living someone else’s dream for you? You’re putting out energy but starving emotionally. The other person gets all the satisfaction.

Energy move: Declare independence
You bought in; you can set yourself free. No confrontation needed, just “I don’t have to expect that of myself.” Worst-case scenario: Someone who’s not you will be disappointed. You will feel wonderful.

2. Energy drain: Loss of self
As kids, we had to play by the rules; our unique energy got caged.

Energy move: Personalize your life
Ask yourself, If it were up to me, what would I…hang on my wall? Wear to work? Do for fun? Find the pockets of freedom where you can be more yourself.

3. Energy drain: Deprivation
Duties and responsibilities fill your days. You gain weight trying to get emotional energy from food.

Energy move: Add pleasure, beauty, fun
Satisfying experiences, large and small, are the real nourishment you crave. Plan a big treat to look forward to—and a little one every day.

4. Energy drain: Envy
We often don’t feel envy directly—but we might find someone else’s good fortune depressing.

Energy move: Count your blessings
Comparison is a loser’s game. Look at what you have, and actively feel grateful. (P.S. That person you envy—you don’t know how messy her life really is. Chances are you wouldn’t want it if you had it.)

5. Energy drain: Worry
When you worry, you think you’re dealing with things, but you’re just suffering. Worry never comes up with good ideas. It torments and exhausts us.

Energy move: Get going
Action is the cure for worry. Do one thing that brings you a step closer to coping. If it’s the middle of the night, get up and write a to-do list.

6. Energy drain: Unfinished business
Unmade decisions and postponed projects drain you.

Energy move: Do it or dump it
Forget the perfect decision—just trust yourself and make a choice. Put projects in an appointment book. If you can’t find any good time, that’s a signal you don’t want to do it. So don’t.

7. Energy drain: Overcommitment
You’re always saying “yes”—to your boss, mother, kids, friends; to requests, favors, meetings.

Energy move: Say “yes” to yourself
Tell someone else “no” every once in a while, just to feel your own power. You’ll gain a whole new sense of your ability to take care of yourself.

8. Energy drain: Holding on to loss
Fresh loss is an emergency. But old losses you can’t let go of are dead weight.

Energy move: Cry all your tears
Indulge in big-time mourning. Take off from work, stay in bed, and do nothing but cry till you’re dry—and bored. Then go out and embrace life

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/omagazine/Solving-the-Emotional-Energy-Crisis/2#ixzz1lcXbumqr