become better at small-talk

im getting there. for a while i attempted the not complaining about anything method to appear more likeable…this works to a degree. i still need to have a personality! i need an opinion. i tend to ask alot of questions about the other person as well. i just go with the flow most times now. when i was younger i never had a problem but over the last couple of years i started to worry….now i realized who i am again and my self esteem is back up. i think that makes a huge difference. i am no longer pretending to be happy. i am happy…and its all thanks to positive attitude and exercise….its not like i have had any major life changes in the past 12 months. i have just realised how to be happy.

ive realised sonething lately- i am good at small talk- in the past couple of weeks ive had a few experiences where i have realised this. ive worked out a way i am good at small talk- dont over anaylise everything! usually i feel restircted to say a lot of things and this was becoming ridiculous!- people may become uncomfortable if your doing a lot more thinking in your head and not actually talking to them. i just need to believe im good at it and conversation flows.
if im having negative thoughts in my head- such as….’what do i say, im boring to talk to’ and instead just make chit chat with a smile it can actually be more fun.
usually im a deep thinker- but life is too short to over-anaylise.
for me, im willing to make a little effort and listen to what other people want to say as well.- some people you click with and some people you dont- but even if you dont click with someone at the start doesnt mean that later on you might not have a really good connection with them later on. its important just to be yourself and without sounding like a bitch- if you like me you like me and if you dont you who cares! cant be liked by everyone which is the problem of those who cant make conversation- the fear of rejection