make more friends

this has def happened. i have my old friends, my new friends and my uni friends…..for a long time i thought i didnt need my old friends anymore or i was mad at people for not being as close as we used to. ive realised that all friendships are important. i do love my friends for all their different parts. im more trusting now too however i dont spill all my secrets….i tell my family everything. mum dad and my bro. you need friends too though and im glad to say i have made some. i have escaped the idea that old friendships are a bad thing (i.e when you get hurt…sometimes isnt better to forgive- in saying that i am not friends with some people who are just not worth it) ....sometimes friendships just dont last and this hurts- its like breaking up with a partner cause you considered them one of your best friends… but i know its corny- just be positive- be your own bestfriend. love yourself and never critize yourself. if someone hurts you- there are plenty of people out there who love you- and WILL love you. sorry just had to share the joy

what do you do when you cant be two places at once????
who do you see?
i sort of promised two people i would catch up with them….but they both want to meet at the same spot. should i just not go altogether. i just hate the silence of introducing friends to my other friends. just feels awkward

i had a fight with one of my closest friends…practically like sisters. we fought about a silly thing. i apoligized but she doesnt want to accept it- at the time of the fight i wouldnt talk to her that day so now she doesnt want to talk to me ever. i get where shes coming from but im sick of fighting i dont see the point. at least i can sleep better knowing i got what i wanted off my chest..i dont regret telling them i love them because at the end of the day i will sleep better knowing i got all i wanted to say out. even if it means we probarly wont ever speak again like we used to

what are best friends?
im so annoyed at a group of girls i used to be best friends with in school. its been 2 years out of school and im so tired of them.
2 of the girls are leaving to go overseas and expect you to jump and do what they want whenever they set a time. for example tonight i told them i couldnt make it due to a work meeting so we made plans to go out for a short coffee today. (even today wasnt the best as i have a major exam in a few days) i msg them today to set a time and the reply i get is that they have a million things to do such as go shopping, and gym and they will see me when they get back.
i understand everyone is busy when we go overseas (have been overseas every year of my life) but i just cant understand why this group still has to call eachother best friends.

im sick to death of being friends with negative people, always complaining. i feel like i am making great new friends but i am always getting tied back by them and i feel like a bad person if i cut them off completley. truth is im lonely with just them. i cant talk to them, i dont have fun with them at all and it seems like a waste of time just hanging around them. on facebook they tag me in albums such as best friends…but truth is we see eachother once a month and only other contact is through cancellations to catchup through messaging. i just had to vent my anger to someone as its exam period time and i dont want to waste time thinking about this.

ive decided to cut them off. i need to spend more time with people who want to see me and make the effort i do to see them. people who dont just call me when it suits them. people who dont just call me because they want to do a favour to their guy friend who likes me (i.e set us up).

people who value friendship as much as i do and can clearly see the benefits it has to offer.

oh my god. i was starting to make good friends but its hard to balance making friends with passing exams! i need human contact!!!!! i am so sick of studying

well i dont think i realized how many people actually do care about me until my birthday. ive realized that i am really blessed to have a beautiful family and truth be told sometimes my family i.e mum dad and brother are my bestfriends. ive nearly completed this goal but im going to give it a bit more time. im learning that in order to make friends you have to turn yourself into a friend… dont know if that make sense…in a way you have to have the qualities somebody else would want if they had you as a friend. not everyone is perfect and we cant all make funny jokes but there are other things we can do such as being loyal, and being there for others.

well ive learnt i have to be friends with myself first… instead of always putting myself down when i dont just ‘click’ with someone. you can ‘click’ with everyone. and ive found that sometimes the people that you become closest to are those you thought you would never be closest to.
im normally very reserved and fear rejection. im thinking of starting to be that outgoing person without a care in the world if people think im too stalkerish… im sure they dont think that but for some reason i wont ever ring up people out of the blue for fear they think im a loser. why do i feel like this??????

well this goal has certainly come along way… not long ago i felt myself being the most lonely person in the world… a transition from my old friends to make way for my new self…. i eventually found people who share a love for the same things and have the same ideas about how friendships should run… on trust, honesty communication, etc. i think its important than when making new friends you remain true to yourself… and if that means leaving some people behind who are holding you back, then as much as it may hurt and you may feel lonely you have to move forward.

these last couple of days have been good. ive made some great uni friends and am hanging out with some people i didnt really talk to in high school. my old friends group is falling apart- but i think the change is needed- I need to be able to grow and relate to people not just have people there that cant understand me just because we have been friend forever