enjoy the third quarter of 2008 by having one NEW and FULFILLING experience in July, August, and September

I can’t believe all this month has gone, and still without me getting a job. In august I wasn’t really trying much, with all the traveling going on, but I don’t know why I’m still struggling so much. However, saying that, I do have two interviews on the same day in October – one for casual shifts in a nursery, which doesn’t pay so much, but I would really like to have; and the other doing support work, full time, as I was before. I am supposed to have a job already, casual work in a private home for adults with learning disabilities, but they are so bad at contacting me… I call them and they don’t get back, so I think I’ll give up completely when I find something better. I’m hoping to have some more replies to jobs still.

This month has also seen me attempting to increase my social life, with seeing a couple bands – one acoustic and one heavy. I’m also making sure I see my family frequently enough.

Most of all, I’ve been training more than ever for karate. That has been very fulfilling, and I’ve improved a lot. Very ready to go for my yellow belt grading.

These last few months have been so crazy, that I’ve barely been getting online at all, and not nearly enough on 43Things. August has been good though, and many new and fulfilling experiences.

I’ve now got to remember what was July and what was August, though…

Well, stuff with my boyfriend developed further, and hopefully better. When he got back from seeing his wife, he had no where to live, so we spent one night in a B&B, and then decided to go to the Isle Of Wight! I love this spontaneous traveling, but I will write more about that in my other goal, and 43Places, if I ever get around to it.

When we got back, he had a court case for our old workplace. I went with him (neither of us had been to court before). It was a disappointing experience. Mainly because it involved sitting in a waiting room for over an hour, before they decided to postpone it. They’re not decided the date til the end of September, so it’s going to be months before it gets resolved.

That night, he had free accommodation from the police, but after that he was stuck again. He found a friend to stay with for the night… but we struck gold! Deciding to pick up a ad paper while we were out for the day in Brighton city, we were flicking through the rooms for rent section, and ended up calling one just as we got off the train. The guy told us to come see the place right then, if we wanted, so straight back on the train!

He’d had a lot of offers, and I wasn’t willing to lose it, so I persuaded my boyfriend to go for it. While we were there, Damian (the guy we rent from) got another call asking about the place. He was just giving details over the phone, and then turned to us, asked us if we wanted it, and it was a done deal. I don’t know what the guy on the phone thought, but we were laughing a lot.

So, I’ve moved out for real this time. Still gotta get all my stuff over there, but I’m in Switzerland with my family right now! That’s something else new and fulfilling. I’ll, again, write about that in more detail elsewhere, but I’ll be doing lots of new things here. Never stayed in the snowy mountains before – and in summer, too!

I also bought a laptop, which has been great to have. And am really trying to learn Spanish. I will learn it.

The job search continues, even though I’ve been told I’m getting two jobs, got offered another which I don’t want, one more which are contacting me later with vacancies and some pending applications. I don’t know why it’s so difficult for anything to actual happen there.

I’m working a lot on my plans for the coming year. My boyfriend and I have decided we really do want to go to America, and are pretty much agreed on California: we both have family there, it’s my home state, it’s warm and they have three karate dojos in of my school! Incredible! I’ve decided to try for college (near one of the dojos). This is going to be complicated, because I’m not sure totally how to do it all. I hope I can figure it out. If I can, I’d love to go to Berkeley. LA looks good, too, but there are a few others to consider. As long as I can do cultural studies – probably Native American studies. But, yes, all that will take a lot of figuring out. Maybe some 43T People can help me out :)

What a fulfilling month, though, huh?

I haven’t written on 43Things for a while now. Mainly because there’s been so much going on. I’ve barely been going to the gym – that’s how much my life is changing!

So, lets see if I can start from the beginning.

The month started off pretty normal – working as many shifts as I could, seeing my boyfriend all the time, fitness classes in between. I said here earlier that me and him were hoping to move out, in a place we’d already found. Well, that happened. It was a pretty perfect place – the guy was never around, and we had a small double room for £60 each, a week. It was like having our own house, really. Except having to keep it super clean.

But, then, everything fell apart. My boyfriend is separated, and he decided to go see his wife. This really messed him up. And, boy, did it hurt me. We rushed into the relationship too fast, so he hadn’t had enough time to let go of her.

When he came back, things were mixed. Sometimes I dealt with it really well, and other times I couldn’t handle it. There was a lot of crying, anger, depression…

We got rid of the place we were staying. I went back to my parents’ house for a few days. He went to the Lake District, near where his wife is, to be alone at times, and to finish stuff with her totally. So he would know it couldn’t work between them. This hurt more.

He got four weeks off work for depression, anti-depressants and handed in his notice. I got one week for something like ‘mild situational distress’, and also handed my notice in. We didn’t want to go back to where we knew they were talking about us and judging us. It was the final push I needed to quit.

I then went to Holland to stay with a good friend. This helped a lot. I’ve really been thinking rationally what to do with my life.

No one knew about any of this, except my boyfriend, the friend I mentioned, and my other best friend.

Fulfilling month. Next month will be just as much. The job search continues, seriously considering college (for the first time) in 2009, find somewhere to live, and sort out how being with my boyfriend will work. It’s very complicated… especially with him being Mexican, meaning he’ll get kicked out the country after his divorce!

I’m hoping to get one of my goals done: move out. The place I contacted today sounds very promising. I will write more about that, under the separate goal most likely, when we’ve been to see it.

Also should be meeting a friend of a few years in two weeks – who I’ve only ever spoken to online! That will get me towards another goal, of meeting my online friends.

One thing, which I think is quite major, will be to go through my goals and delete the ones I know will never happen. That will be new, fulfilling, and also very sad. I mainly talking about ones which relate to joining the army. I think it’s coming close to the time where I have to accept I’ve given up on that dream. Of course, deleting them off my list still leaves room for them to return, but I think moving on would help me start thinking of new goals of what I want to do.