stop worrying about what other people think of me

I see myself getting closer to accomplishing this task every day. I’m not finding myself self concious about what I’m wearing or what my body looks like, actually, i compliment myself more. its not totally easy, im just making the effort to care more about what i think of me than what others might

I think I am an attractive woman but I have struggled with low self esteem most of my life, I have been a people pleaser, an enabler, and a doormat at various points of my life as well. I think this has scarred me into focusing on other’s opinions. Some people can be so mean and they don’t seem to think before they speak. I let other’s opinions take over what i think of myself. In actuality those who have so much negative to say,if you really look at them you’ll find that you can say so many negative things about them too…I take solace in the fact that i could hurt some feelings if i wanted too but I wont stoop to their level…and sometimes nobody is really even thinking about me its just my self conciousness getting to me