Someone recently suggested to me that drama serves different purposes in our lives. It can make us feel alive when we feel dead inside. It can give us something interesting to think/talk about when there doesn’t seem to be much going on in our lives that’s interesting. If we know we need to make changes, sometimes we use drama as a “springboard” to make them, rather than a slower, more daily/disciplined process.
Knowing those purposes can help us choose something other than drama to do the same things: we can pursue a dream that fills us with life and passion. We can take time, effort, and gentle self-evaluation to make the changes we need to in our lives. Brina said, “The problem normally lies in the people you hang around.” I think that’s the mechanism that keeps drama going. We tend to attract one another with our own drama, and each person’s drama bolsters that others’.
I can’t control other people and their drama-nor do I want to! That would be more drama, wouldn’t it? But I can choose to take a few more moments here and there and breathe, so I can get a different perspective. And then I can choose the people I am with most often differently, and what conversations to be a part of. That’s my goal.
