My boyfriend was talking to me about his fist day of class and I found myself acting like I was listening but actually reaching for the laptop at the same time. I had to stop myself, put the laptop away, look at him attentively and really engage into what he was saying. I showed him that I was really listening by responding to the underlying emotions he was conveying in his story. I think that he really appreciated it.
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lemonpie28 has written 4 entries about this goal
I think that I have made progress on this goal then I hear about how some friend made the comment that I talk a lot. I guess I have a ways to go.
I feel like I have gotten better at this, I need to remember to keep the focus on the other person rather than reverting it back to me. I also want to work on not disclosing more than necessary. And… not complaining or venting about other people so much. I decided that my sister will be the one person that I’ll vent to.
This is a lot harder than it seems. I have a hard time with active listening. I will listen but instead of looking the person in the eyes I will fidget around, rip up the napkin in my hand or whatever is nearby. I was working with a girl scout group and the theme of listening came up in one try-it. I realized that a lot of the things that I was supposed to teach the girls I wasn’t able to follow in my everyday life. My sister tells me that at times I have diarrhea of the mouth. I know that is a bit of graphic imagery but it is so true.