make 5 new friends

I read something online about getting ready for college life and granted I’ve graduated college twice, maybe it doesn’t apply to me but it seemed to hit home. It said you should go out and try new activities and keep an open mind and just go out and have fun. Don’t go to an event thinking, ‘I’m only here to make friends.’ and dread going. Go because you want to and maybe you’ll make friends in the process.

I’m trying to do this. Sometimes at events or work I think I try to rush friendships and maybe that turns people off. But then again, I’m a little worried with this new plan I’m just putting the problem aside. But I am going to try new things and be more places so it might work.

I’ve got to know my roommate more and I’ve kept in touch with some of my old friends lately. And I’ve become a lot more close to my boyfriend. But I’m planning to move to LA in july so when I get there, I hope to make 5 new friends. Right now, its too much of a transition time.

I had a regular job maybe I’d make some friends. Right now I’m substitute teaching AND I don’t have any money so it’s really hard to meet people…

want a friend who doesn’t care about image and pop culture and being ‘cool’. I want a friend who wants to go hiking and play card games and just be happy. But I also want a friend who is always nice to me (and I would be to her too). I want to hang out and talk about ideas and philosophy. I want to watch girly movies at home and go on double dates if she has a boyfriend too.

I’m sick of these girls who have to wear makeup and blow dry their hair. All they want to do is get drunk and go to bars. I want someone more like me. It seems hard to find these days. I’m so thankful for my boyfriend but I need some girlfriends too. I’ve had some good ones but they all either moved away or ended up not being who I thought they were.

I’m going to hang out with a girl I knew from college this weekend. So that has potential. And then there’s my new roommate and the random girl from online. So three potential new friends. Hopefully I can keep them!

So I haven’t made any new friends yet BUT the outlook is looking better. I’m interviewing with Sylvan tomorrow so maybe I’ll meet some likeminded teachers there. I’m also meeting this girl from craigslist and going hiking. Also, me and my roommate have started to spend some time together. Ya – I might have a chance at a normal life lol! Its been so boring without my friends (most of them moved away)

Maybe someone can give me advice:
How can I get to know my neighbors?
I try to say hi when they are coming and going but I live in a big apartment complex in which most people are older than me. I’ve seen a few girls my age but I don’t know what apartment they’re in and I hardly ever see them. Well maybe I answered my own question! Next time I see them, I will ask what apartment they are in and explain that I’m trying to get to know people here. And then ask if they’d want to hang out? OMG that’s just really scary for me. I’m really shy. Do you have a better way to word it??

Over the past year I have lost more and more friends because they all graduated college and moved away. I’m really upset right now because I just realized the only person I know in this town is my boyfriend and his family. All my other friends have moved away (and yea I still keep in contact with them but its not the same). This summer my best friend and I, who I did everything with, had a huge fight and haven’t talked since. The last straw was when my roommate graduated this december and moved. Now I’m all alone and it feels terrible.

Whats worse is that I’m embarrassed that I don’t have friends which is preventing me from making more friends. I’m afraid they will wonder why I don’t have friends. And I just got a new roommate and she’s moving in tomorrow and I’m really embarrassed because she’s going to find out how weird I am soon. This is horrible! I’m so upset!

I know I have to start making more friends but its painful. I’m shy and I don’t want to bother anyone. I also don’t want to waste my time trying to be someone’s friend who really doesn’t want any more friends. And whenever I try to make friends, it ends up being like- let’s go to the movies or let’s go to dinner- something formal and its never- let’s hang out and talk about nonsense. I don’t know I don’t know what to do. I need to make friends but I’m also really busy and don’t want to take the time. And it seems like its really hard to find people that I really like. Most people are nice but I don’t have chemistry with everyone. I know I know this is just a lot of excuses. I should just go out and… join a knitting club lol!