I have two friends who don’t particularly get along with one another, although I think they would like to have a better relationship. I am going out to breakfast on Wednesday with the one I hardly ever hear from, to celebrate our birthdays which are only a month apart.
The other one has her daughter and grandbabies in town and wanted me to come over to see them before they leave. So the Dearest and I went over there Sunday afternoon for their little get-together.
What do these events have to do with each other? Well, these two friends of mine are sisters who live 40 miles apart and hardly ever see each other, yet I am seeing both of them within a few days time this week.
The new and fulfilling part will be my handling of the two encounters. In the past, each of them has spent long periods of time complaining to me about the other. I am friends with both of them and have repeatedly told them to work things out instead of venting at me.
Last night, I guided the conversation toward looking at old family pictures so that the younger one would feel sentimental about her sister. It worked great and was very fulfilling.
Wednesday will be more of a challenge because that one is naturally prone to complain more, but I will be segment-intending my way through the morning. This will put me in charge of the conversation and I can easily guide it to the positive.
Perhaps my influence can narrow their divide after all.