get divorced

We are getting divorecd. Therapy only was able to point out things we were already painfully aware of and do not know how to fix. Sometimes people are just not meant to be together. For now, I live in the guest room (by choice) and we are happy with the way things are until I find a full-time professional job and move out after graduating (which is quickly approaching). At least we will have a no strings, amicable divorce. And we are still friends. I am happy about that at least.

It turns out that he does love me after all, and I love him as well. We begin therapy very soon. It feels right and we’ve both been very happy together. Wish us luck!

... is my best friend. He also happens to be a wonderful, loving and generous man. I don’t think I’m all that bad either. We just didn’t click. I believe marriage should be a journey and not a destination. I feel like there should be emotion and passion involved to SOME degree, even after years and years of togetherness. I guess I am a romantic. He believes that a nearly platonic and emotionless relationship is what most couples are left with after a few years and that they should just expect it to be like that and live with it. After 7 months of living apart, I am ready to sever the legal tie that binds us- which he has graciously agreed to maintain so that I could have health insurance while I finish school. Well, I am graduating in 6 months and applying to grad school before then. I need to be divorced to receive the most beneficial financial aid packages. This has made me realize that this is 100% what I want to happen, not just because of the aid but because I deserve better than this. I could never stay married to someone who didn’t truly love me. I could never go back because I would rather be alone.