be a better girlfriend

I’ve noticed myself being a little mean lately. Some of it is provoked, but certainly not all of it. If I’m upset, I need to calmly state what’s wrong before I get in a bad mood. Nip the problem in the bud so to speak. He doesn’t deserve my attitude. He’s so good to me, even when he does do something annoying, like occasionally talk over me, or complain about his roommate a little excessively, it’s not worth it to get overly sarcastic and bitchy.

I have an interesting problem. Me and my boyfriend are both freshmen in college. We have very different living situations though. I live in a dorm in the middle of campus, have a meal plan, access to free laundry, the works. He however, lives in a dry cabin (meaning no running water) about 3/4 mile from campus. Because life is a bit harder for him, I help him out where I can. He stays over 2, maybe 3 nights a week (mostly because we want to be together, but partly because he has to get up early and it’s nice for him not to have to walk to campus from his cabin. He doesn’t have a car). I often will put his laundry in with mine so he doesn’t have to pay for laundry and sit in the laundry room while waiting for clothes. I sometimes feed him my own food because he didn’t have a chance to pack his own that morning. He uses my printer and my internet.
It’s not that I don’t like to help him. I would do more if I could. However I wonder if letting him depend on me so much is a good idea. We’re not even 20 yet, we’re away at school trying to learn how to take care of ourselves. How is he learning that if I’m always bailing him out? I rarely ask him for anything, just because I don’t need anything. I would also like to add that he is not using me. We’ve discussed this before. When I do rarely need something he is perfectly happy to help me, and I’m literally welcome at his place anytime I want. I just want to know if giving so much of my time and material things is really helping more then hindering in the long run.
So, anyone out there have any perspectives on this? I am quite confused.

The other day, I was going through a rough patch in my week, and I broke down. My boyfriend was the best, he sat and listened to me, held me and then talked me into feeling much better, even though he had somewhere to be and was already very late. I realized in that moment that not only do we love each other, but he’s always there for me, he’s always the best for me. I want to be the best for him.