help 43 people on 43 things

I have seriously neglected this goal, and 43things in general.

Lots of very valid reasons but thinking maybe its about time I tried to participate a little more. Having said that I’m away more than I am at home which doesnt make it easy :)

Someone on this site is having problems getting their deposit back from a housing agency. There’s a certain Mr Paul who works at the agency who is a complete smart ass but I am slowly backing him into a corner, in the nicest possible way of course.

Got to the point where I have a clear statement of what is required so now all I gotta do is help the person get what is needed.

We will get the deposit back !!!!!!!!

But numbers are not important. I keep this goal as a constant reminder that helping others is not such a bad thing to do.

Sometimes things look a little more complicated than they actually are.

Sometimes all it needs is to ask a few questions, make a few suggestions, and send over a powerpoint presentation.

Sometimes people create excuses which they actually think are barriers.

Sometimes people know the answers themselves they just need to know where to look for them.

Sometimes they find them :)

Took far longer than expected I am so pleased I sent it. Thats all I want, or need, to say.

Started by helping someone with a bit of life coaching via MSN. Have to admit i was very challenging but we got a plan lined up which is always a good way forward.

Next task 10,300 words to proof read and if you reading this then dont worry I will get it done.

Finally some unexpected help in that I managed to make someone smile who was having a tough day.

Three people in one day, nice feeling as i drag myself off to bed.

Good night 43things, good night fabulous people !!

... but i have been there when someone needed a friend to talk to. I know they found it difficult but I’m so so pleased they did because in the past they have found it easier to hide than confront. All I want them to do is to be just a little selfish and start putting themselves, and their needs before those of others. Sometimes its ok to do that, sometimes you have to do it.

Someone else asked me to help them tonight. Someone who I’ve helped before. Someone special. I hope I can !!

I know this is rather a cryptic post but best that way.

I’ve kept this goal as an onging reminder that sometimes i should make time to help others. This morning i gave an hour to someone on 43thing who tomorrow will attend an interview. We agreed to hook up on MSN and I spent 60 mins just talking thru stuff related to the role they are going for. She asked questions, i gave answers. I asked questions, she gave answers. I’m hopeing it will help, and also give more confidence. If nothing she will be better prepared than she was yesterday.

If you read this my friend then good luck with your interview.

Now of course I’m running late, and need to get my butt in gear he he.

... that “help” is always the right word. Spoke to someone this morning and they were a little down, a little flat, and no energy in their words. Hate to see that in someone who has been a constant source of smiles to so many, and who also I got a lot of respect for. They’ve been brave, they’ve been honest, they’ve shared, and they’ve made people laugh.

So we talked, and then we talked some more, and then later we talked again.

The result … smiles again. Smiles for them, and smiles for Malc. Like that !!

Helping people is not always about being nice and saying what they want to hear. I was helping someone yday with some words they needed to write and really had to push back.

I challenged, I played devils advocate, I asked lots of questions but the end product was so much better.

I dont like doing it because I feel such a bastard but I hope they realise I had to be like that.