I think one of the things of healthy relationships that you can ask yourself is, Does this relationship make me a better person? Is the other person a better person because of me?
I hadn’t really thought of those 2 questions until right now.
My Colombian friend, GV, I feel I’m overall a better person and I think I’m helping him be a better person. There isn’t an unhealthy tie here, as far as I can see, at least not on my end.
These past 2 months, I’ve been even more cyclical than usual, I think, with my emotions. Some may be hormones, some the time of year (the heat), and what happened last year, as well as my financial situation. All of that has me in a mini-emotional rollercoaster, among life’s other things.
GV doesn’t hit on me, but I would surmise his interest in me is more than just a platonic friend, it’s just that he’s smarter than most guys that have crossed my path interested in this route in that he is showing me respect, common courtesy, and not doing things with something expected in return.
He doesn’t always agree with me, thankfully, because sometimes everything that I make up sounds good, when it isn’t. I’ve noticed he’s very action-oriented. If he says he’s going to do something, he does it.
I’ve been having some issues in the computer realm and he’s greatly helped me. He bought me a 2 TB external HDD, the exact one I wanted. He did this Sunday night and by today, mid-afternoon, less than 48 hrs later, the HDD is sitting on my desk to be used to help me recover over 1/2 TB of data I thought I lost on Friday.
He’s sat with me using technology to help me work through this problem through desktop conferencing, advising me, walking me through step-by-step. He’s done this since Friday, sitting with me for hours on helping me figure out how to solve this without it costing me anything.
In fact, between the recovery software and the new HDD in US dollars, he’s spent a pretty chunk of change. Though he is a software engineer, they do not get paid anywhere as well as they do here in the U.S. I’m guessing he probably doesn’t even make $50K/yr in Colombian with close to 20 yrs of experience.
He knew how important my pictures were to me. He didn’t question or really think about it. He just asked me what I thought could fix this problem and I said, and he stepped in sacrificially to help me.
His own mom was a single mom for many years and he saw the sacrifices she made. He wanted to make my burdens a little lighter. Wow! He stayed up Fri, Sat, Sun, Mon nights to help me. Tonight, due to a thunder storm, he couldn’t, but I’m set at least for the next 7-10 hrs of work as I let the computer do it’s thing automatically.
What a contrast GV is to MM! GV doesn’t have the best English, but he’s communicated WAY better to me than MM. I think GV is an incredible person and I look forward to getting to know him better.