I hate to share this, but financially things were incredibly bad in 2009 that one of the elders from my church said to stop tithing because we weren’t even meeting the bare necessities of living. In the past, I tithed because I LOVED it. I loved seeing that I had the ability to choose to tithe because income was coming in and was amazed at how much the tithe & offering checks were.
I truly loved supporting different missionaries, ministries, helping other people out on top of that. But, when I had to give up my home, move in with my dad, and though I know how to trade stocks, you can’t do that without capital, it was dismal and even the little that I had, I hung onto for dear life and you can’t trade that way with scared money. It just doesn’t produce profits.
My husband asked me about LW and why when she went for a job, she just got it and then she would choose to live. She hadn’t worked for over 20 yrs outside the home and was able to get a job quickly and fairly easily. She has her bachelors in journalism, but hasn’t done anything with it for over 20 yrs. Granted, the jobs she got didn’t pay well, but she did get them.
So, I asked LW what was she doing? She said she tithed, spent time daily with God seeking Him, and asked God to help her see the things that are not good in her life and get rid of them so she could be closer to Him.
Now, did she get the jobs because she tithed? Am I in the financial situation because I was not tithing? Was God punishing me? We live in an age of grace now, and it’s not legalistic, but was God punishing me because I wasn’t tithing. After all, with what I am making, it’s really not enough to even be for 1 person to live independent much less a family of four.
As I looked back at all the years of me tithing, which is basically from 18 yrs old to 2009. From 2009, my kids gave well more than the tithe from their allowances and they did it on their own accord. I didn’t require them, and they cheerfully gave. Sometimes they gave all they earned, but usually in the realm of 20%+ of what they earned, well above the tithe.
Sunday I found out why they did that. They knew how important tithing is for me, a test to see my faith in God. They stood in the gap for me. I honestly wondered why it was easy for them to make money and now I can see possibly it may be due to their heart of giving to God. They didn’t give to get back, but God gave them many times over.
And, I believe all those years that I faithfully gave, God brought many people, situations to help us along these years of financial famine. My husband said that God would never cause this in my life, wanting us to live in poverty. But, through these hardships, I’ve learned to be far more compassionate, humble, merciful, way less judgmental, better steward of the finances he entrusts to us, resourceful, incredibly grateful.
It’s not that I wasn’t a generous or grateful person, nor forgiving, rather God wants those married with humility, true compassion for other’s plights, mercy, and to do it all with love.
I felt when I got this subcon job that I wanted to tithe, but my husband was against it, at least while we are making so little money and still living at my dad’s.
When I look back, it started in the 2009 timeframe when I stopped tithing that making money has been very, very difficult. Last Saturday, my husband said if I wanted to tithe, I could, even if he didn’t agree, he wasn’t going to deny me that. Today he said I should tithe if I really want and if I don’t, it’s not because he’s not allowing it, so I take that as I have my husband’s full blessing, though he doesn’t really understand.
What will God do? In Micah 3 says that we can test God in this and so I am going to. It also says in more than one area of the Bible and I’ll paraphrase is that sometimes what will be poured back to you is what you give out. If you give little, then little will be given back to you.
Now, I’m not giving the tithe so that I expect God to drop huge bags of money on my doorstep (although that would be really cool), but just seeing God pour His goodness in the ways He chooses that is best for us.
Seriously, I thought I was going to have to pay taxes and I end up having to pay none and getting a refund. It’s my biggest refund in a long time. However, the refund will go to pay down some of the taxes back from my divorce, which is more than my refund, but at least it is about 12-13% of it, which is something and I am happy.
My husband did point out that none of my siblings tithe and look how blessed they are. I said God still blesses people whether they love God or not. It’s not only Christians that He blesses. It’s just that many people who are incredibly blessed don’t give credit where it’s due, in my opinion. In fact, even being a Christian, sometimes pride creeps in still and I don’t give God the credit where I should.
I did notice that when I did tithe, looking back now, that my salary kept increasing as well as the ability to make a lot of money, the ease of it. Is it related to my tithing? I don’t know, but maybe the tithing represented a measure of my faith in the Lord to provide. I don’t know. My husband says it isn’t, but I disagree with him.
The areas I am focusing are on the tithe, which is 10%. Then a portion above that weekly (I’ll give on a monthly basis) will go towards Mercy ministries, helping those in need. And since I am rounding up to the nearest $5 or $0, those extra few bucks will go towards the building fund at my church.
My tithe a month was usually about what I am making now or a little less in my subcon job. So, basically, I am making about 10% of what I used to make. Sad, eh?
My tithe now percentagewise seems a lot to me. I feel like the widow’s mite, but I know it’s not the actual amount, but my faith to see the goodness of God.
Boy, I’m rambing. So, already God blessed in the tax area. My mom also gave me a check to cover some of our son’s Chess costs, which allowed me to pay the book deposit for him going into middle school next year.
I got to pay the bills I paid all fairly early. There are 3 more bills and 2 are scheduled on specific dates, so I can’t do this earlier.
My husband may see these all as that’s the way it should be, but I see these things as God blessing. I also see when I get discounts on things or gift cards, or people bless us with stuff or gestures or whatever, I see these things as the hand of God working through other people.
Boy, I can’t wait until we are making good money again and we can really help and bless others out financially!!! I am so excited for what God’s going to do!