be a better partner

the sunday night meetings are going well. the best thing about them, for me, is that we can also catch up on things that we’ve missed during the week. AND we can tell each other the good things, as well as the “bad”. we both forgot about one meeting, but we’ve met 3 times total since we decided to do this, so I think we’re close to making it a habit.

so we have a standing talking date every Sunday at 7:30. this has been good, I think. it lets us air some grievances as well as really be able to understand each other. it’s amazing how many times we misunderstand each other. we both think we’re saying something very simply, but it will turn out that the other heard something totally different.

doing little things for him so he won’t have to do them has been my newest effort. and he thanks me each and everytime. I’ve picked things that he always does (ie. I never do them), and just randomly did them for him. I don’t mention it or anything. Makes me feel good and I think it cheers him up.

I really gotta just listen more. He does talk, but he only says things once and won’t say them again. If he really needs things he DOES ask for them, and he’s very sensitive if I don’t do them. Sometimes I swear he doesn’t ask for anything, but he DOES. I just have the whole world spinning around in my head and I forget to listen.

I think this is a lifelong goal, but one that I have definite plans to work on actively right now. My husband definitely doesn’t know how much I appreciate him, and I don’t do enough to make him aware of it.

My credo for this is going to be: Actions speak way louder than words.