This is beyond challenging.
I think the problem is that this is an unconscious habit. When my feelings get involved or I really need to vent about how a person has treated me poorly, it’s my reflex to snap about them behind their back.
To be honest, I hate no one in my life. People can be difficult, but this quote really puts everything in perspective: “Be kind; everyone is fighting a hard battle.” and that is so true. Everyone has their own problems to go through. With this is mind, why put them through another kind of torture, knowing someone is thinking so negatively about them?
I choose another path. Easier said than done, but I’m hopeful.
I can’t believe I never thought about making this a goal before.
This is an incredible challenge for me. Every time I’m with a person, there is something someone brings up that is negatory to that person. I remember one time like twelve-ish years ago, I was in the third grade and I relayed to someone that I thought our teacher was strict, and she publicly announced what I had said to everyone. That was the first time I got caught. There were plenty of other times, talking about my friends and then that information getting back to them.
It’s just no good, on any parts. It may be fun to talk about someone for what they said, but I hardly think people say what they say in malice, they usually do it with good intentions. Even if it was said with malice, why retaliate?
I’ve always felt, especially when I’m with my friends, that there is always something better to talk about than other people. It’s just my thoughts and now that it’s Summer and I’m hanging out with my friends more, talking about people is going to be a much easier ordeal.
It’s going to take a lot of strength to accomplish this goal, and I don’t think I’ll get a lot of support from people around me, but it’s definitely worth a shot.