get over my ex

he came bck and again left…..............

Lyf iz mch worth widout him…....i still lov him,but i m happier thn ever.no tension,no obsession,no answerability,no heavyheads….lyf iz kewl…...

he iz basically a cheater….u can’t love a cheater alwayz….

since one year,we are on off-n-on game.He has a girlfriend,wants to marry her,but seems he is not getting serious attention from her.
He swings,comes to me too.
We see everyday each other in gym.he flirts sometime,i do that too.
We went out,we share,we talk as well.but,he is most of the time very restrained.I am too,but after a short while,i go in my natural self….that sets him uncomfortable,i believe.
So now i think if it is a game…then let me play too.
not bad for flirting and occasional sex.
Only 2-3 days back,he visited my place and we had most wonderful sex.
He is become swingy.
I love him.It is 7 years long relationship.I want him back.Though he has misbehaved even in these years beyond my imagination.I let it go…it still sometime rips my mind off.
But i want him back.
I don’ want to get over.
I feel wretched most of the time.My mind says that i m making a complete fool of myself.
He is having the best of many worlds.
In last one year,i am where i started from….....stuck,puzzled,emotionally drained,low-self esteem sometime.I need help.

I m back on 43T after a long gap.Meantime,lotta water ran in my ever-turbulent life.Me and my ex met many times.We talked,shared,had fun,had sex,exchanged text msgs,”LOVE U”msgs too….but,it has same ending.
The moment this girl comes he goes uncomfortable.He likes to share important decisions,issues with me,he says that there is nobody better than me..but severe ties abruptly always.
He is not the same person.I don’ feel same for him too.He has unbroken record of sleeping with girls…now i m getting clues and confirmations.I hate myself for going back to him…and more to miss him when he throws me out in ruthless,shameless fashion….what do I do?
I didn’t see any sign to get over.I feel guilty still when i talk to any man who shows little interest in me.

plaese suggest me…is it possiblt to get over a 7-year old relationship?

I tried to act bad with my ex in past two months.Not only that i was damn serious to drag him into legal web too,but,something in the deep of my heart stopped me.God saved me from going down in my own eyes.My ex was stunned with my behaviour as it never suited my real self.Even i knew this.
So two days back i decided to let him go free…and told him that he owed me nothing practically.
One day he came to my office and i saw him light and happy.I really loved seeing him that way.
It is nothing but my love for him.
I can’t stay happy in the process of making him hurt.Hurling pain at him resulted in multiplying pain to my soul.It scratched my heart.I felt cheap and mean.
Now i am feeling good about myself.
There is no fun in exchanging multiple pain for pain.I ll wait for the day when someone else’s pain will give me pleasure.Till then,i need to act the way,God has made me to act…..He made me good…i ll stay good.

My ex called me today at his place for a cup of coffee,and i nearly hugged him…he was trying to feel my nearness..I enjoyed every moment of my being with him…Not that we are getting close together…perhaps never this would happen..may be soon he marries the girl he is dating with,but,the whole change of baehaviour has definitely given me happiness.

I have come to know that he was maintaining parallel relationship with a girl since many years,fighting case for divorce mean time,and carrying me with him as one steady relationship.

I have decided now to sue him.I have enough documentary proofs to establish my relationship with him.I can NOW prove his cheatings as well.
Now he says that expecting love for love is selfish.Height…he sounds as if he loves God only..!!!Now he is sleeping with another girl.I saw her in his bedroom right early in the morning.

Tell my 43tian friends…what to do with this jerk???
Recently a judicial court in Delhi has delivered verdict in favor of live-in relationship..and gave respite to the girl.Though it is a monetary compensation.I m not going for any monetary compensation.I want just to expose this man.I have no right/means to forgive him.

I stopped talking to my ex fully.I was satisfied,contented and was respecting my relationship without any bitterness in my heart…but suddenly i came to know that my ex was keeping one steady relationship with one unmarried girl for nearly 4 years.It devastated me and the very foundation of my relationship.He was operating simultaneously with this girl plus other small little short-termed flings,some of which i was aware and some not.
Now it brought me to zero.I didn’t see any special place in his life for myself when we were officially termed as pair.Let me tell…he was a married guy and i m widow with a son.Now he has divorced his wife.When this process was on he was going well,bu as it approached to end,he did write me off from his life.
Now this man has proposed to another girl to marry him,but she is not agreeing right now.His problem.

Now see,what I did.I called him at my place.He confessed his misdoings,but took no responsibility.
This infuriated me.He was getting casual about our relationship..terming it as nothing but a result of two adults agreeing to have sex.
I threatened him to slap a law suit against it,as Apex court in India has taken live-in relationship into cognizance.In a rare judgement,court has given relief to the victim lady in form of money.I don’ want money.I was bad publicity for this man.

I played dirty,i talked catty,i behaved nasty,i acted finely,i really took smile out of his face.He is sad depressed…so am I,but….i m happy that i could make his feel that what Pain is!!!

I told him that i was not abandoning him at any cost…whether he gets married or not.I maen each word of it.
I hurled pain over him as never before.I m basically a person for whom love matters all..submissive,generally accomodating.I never witnessed this wild,dirty side of mine before.

I feel ashamed for my behaviour as it is bad,but,he has forced me to be like that.

I m a well placed executive in the goverment.I have a public image,public responsibility.This man has recently went thru trauma of separation with his family…dirty public battle.
I ll not get him back….i ll simply expose his wrong doings.He plays with good words.He has communicated to people concerned that he was feeling guilty about divorce and my face reminds him of it….HENCE A NEW FRESH GIRL TO SETTLE IN MATRIMONY.I busted his theory of of guilt conscience.

I m not going to spare him for inflicting pain over me mindlessly,consciously.

I need support.

It was his birthday and he called some friends but not me.I sent him flowers n cards.he accepted acknowledged,called me back in the morning.Again he called me around midniight when other people were busy dancing.I spoke in most controlled fashion,but after that i lost all control and cried a lot.

Since that day,i resoloved not to make any contact to him come what may.Not only that,i have set alarms in my cell to remind me time to time and help me not to get weaken at any moment.

till now,its working well.
though i feel very heavy in heart.I feel restless…i m searching for peace.I know i have to find it within me….i have to be away from any need or greed.
I m thankful to another friend of mine whose mental emotional support is always with me.

Thru this entry,i want to acknowledge his role in my life.I wish him all happiness in life.

it was my ex’s birthday.He had a party,spoke with me in the morning….but didn’t invite me at his place.I suffered pain,my heart twitched with pain.I cried late in the evening as if someone very near and dear one is dead.
He made a call to me exactly at midnight…i wonder why?
Do anyone see a sense calling me at that point of time.I kept my cool and asked about party,dance etc.
Now this man is nothing to me.
I have severed his existence form my life.

virtually left with none to talk or share.Most frustrating is that my friends take my break-up as if it is no big deal.They are just on console-spree….like “he deserves me not”,or “he is irresponsible”,or “he ll be back”,or “soon he ll realise what he is loosing”,or”i should move ahead”,or “sometimes it works,sometime it doesn’t”.........so on so forth.
Why nobody realises my loss that i love him…the way he is.AND IT IS MY LOSS…..TOTALLY MY LOSS.
I don’ want consolation.i want him back.i ll be very happy with him.
i m sad because he never loved me.i m sad he never shows any sign of missing me.he has no guilt for deserting me,he is now lokking for a girl to get married.

i would commit suicide someday.

Actually he came to attend a party my sis threw few days back.A common friend,who,i suppose is now his current flick,called me..and i just shared this info in most innocent fashion that he came to my party,but,he didn’t wish me,talked to me.And like he is not the same person.Incidently,this girl knew about our relationship and our break-up too.

My ex blasted as to why did I share this piece of info with this girl.He called it my “tactics”.I felt deeply hurt.

Now my guess work about his new girl-friend is clearer.Perhaps this innocent transfer of my info has disrupted his wooing strategy,or affected his game-plan to seduce this girl..or this girl got it thru me and bullied him…whatever.

I cried a lot.I never used strategies in this relationship.I always took him on face-value.

I feel crushed.He never gives me chance to shout,fight,discuss.He just shuts himself close.My communication runs one-sided making me feel more rotten and frustrating.

WHAT DO I DO???