Dress better

I hate ironing since I was a little girl.
It was my chore and I hated and still do.
I don’t have any iron board but every time in my life I bought one in the matter of less than two month I moved and left that behind. So I became superstitious and I am afraid to move again.
But without iron board it is so difficult.
What should I do?
I am the worst in dressing.
I hate ironing, and i am out of shape (165LB today) so what ever I wear looks ugly.
My mom says I am lazy that I can’t dress well.
My husband always telling me to learn from others to be chic.
I make my home dresses myself and it makes them more criticize me but i feel comfortable in clothes that i make and I love to be comfortable in home.
In out side because I have a big tummy I have to wear loose cloths.
Anyway I have no taste in choosing and wearing cloths..
Is there anything out to help me get better?
I really want to become elegant and stylish.