Here are some of the characteristics I seek in my true & intented mate.
I only seek that which I have to offer (except where it isn’t relevant) & that which I willingly & openly give in return – unconditionally so!!!
1. Integrity
2. Afrocentricity
3. Global minded
4. Spiritual
5. Centred
6. Grounded
7. Unconditionally loving
8. Charismatic
9. Focused
10. Deep
11. Committed
12. Be More than an Ideas Person – know how to put ideas into effective action – over the course of time
13. Be Committed to Peace – Mind, Body, & Spirit
14. Love my son as his own – just as I am willing & able to do for his children
15. Be sensual
16. Practice tantric sex
17. Be committed to Global Peace, Justice, Education, & Health – Be Willing & Ready to Dedicate Himself Wholly to These Very Things
18. Be intuitive
19. Be Strong – Not in that stereotypical sense – but what true strength is – mind, body, & spirit… The finest example of “manhood”
20. Family-oriented… knowing that is more than spreading your “seed”... it’s about truly giving of oneself to one’s family of origin – but also to the world family
21. Trustworthy
22. Be in love with his culture, community, heritage & committed to its greater good – committed in action – not just principle
23. Know his history
24. Be able to name at least 5 Afrikan countries – more is better…
25. Know about recent past & current events in Afrika & the Middle East – be able to have intelligent discussions on such matters – & actually be interested in them
26. Never use the “n” word – “affectionately” or otherwise
27. Know the words to the Afrikan Amerikan National Anthem
28. Be outgoing
29. Be athletic, adventurous, outdoorsy – a doer… he’ll be someone who is active & out there “doing”... he’s the one who already has the camping gear – because he’s been going for years. He goes skydiving, hiking, backpacking, scuba diving – you name it!
30. Confident & Humble
31. In-Tune
32. Sensitive – without being mamsy pansy. Women often say they want a sensitive guy & don’t mean it. I mean it – but, I don’t want him to be me… everyone should feel free to cry or express their emotions when the situation calls for it. I am looking for someone who is comfortable in his own skin & in-touch with his own emotions & never afraid to express a wide array of them!
33. Gentle
34. My Greatest Lover – In my mind, while the majority of things that truly matter to me are matters of character, I also see my divine right partner as being my all-time best lover ever. I have not been with a great deal of men, but the list of great lovers is far shorter.
35. Be that “Safe Place to Fall”
36. Articulate
37. Non-judgmental
38. Taller than me – have to have some physical or carnal attributes. This isn’t a “must have” – but it certainly is a “want”. My ex-husband was much shorter than me – that never sat well with me. It shouldn’t matter & doesn’t always. But, my preference is taller than me but not too tall.
39. Natural
40. Into Healthfood – raw foods diet would be great. But, just healthy naturally living.
41. Cooks
42. Shares my view on Polyamory
43. Would “never” drive an SUV – & understands why that would be an item on my list
44. Knows how to think for himself – does it regularly… meaning, doesn’t allow the government, the media, or anyone else to define for him what he thinks or believes. He goes out there & gets information for himself.
45. Critical Thinker
46. Political Minded – knowing that ALL things, all decisions, all choices, ULTIMATELY are political ones – whether we realize it or not. He does – & he makes sure he is well informed & active
47. is willing to forego material wealth & possessions for the greater good – the work he chooses to do for the world family
48. Doesn’t want any more children – if he has them already – he is active in their lives: he participates on a daily basis in shaping & molding their future self. He contributes to their financial well-being.
49. Speaks respectfully of women in his past – even when that past was difficult. If he has children by another woman – he shows her the utmost of reverence & respect – mirroring for his children what a true man is like. He is close with the women in his family but not so close that he still needs to be weaned. His level of respect for women is to the core of who he is – doesn’t come & go depending upon the situation or who he is with.
50. Thinks & Speaks Respectfully about Afrikan Amerikan Women – shoot, of AA people in general. This is especially true if he is Afrikan Amerikan… Any AA man who dare think ill of where he comes from – dare not tread near me… lol
51. Fun – yeah, everything doesn’t have to be so friggin serious… he’s fun & outgoing & upbeat
52. Handy – love a man who can fix things – anything… someone who is comfortable giving it “a go” & usually able to figure it out – LOVE THAT! Love it even better if he is then able to teach me!
53. Resourceful – if I am, he MUST be too…
54. Dynamic
55. Romantic – how did this make it so far down on the list?
56. Open-minded
57. Patient – after all these years single, after all that has happened in my life – I am bound to require a bit of patience. I want someone who is patient in general, but I also mean that I want him to be patient with me, with my heart, & spirit. I’m willing to work on self & offer patience in return – but surely require it!
