be more assertive

Yay! It’s an issue I’ve been trying to resolve for awhile now, but every time it came about I was too timid and irresolute to be assertive about it. The other night, the situation I’ve been trying to avoid came up again and I simply said “no, this isn’t going to happen again”, and walked away. I’m a sucker for temptation, so I’m proud of myself for saying no.

I’ve been dancing around an issue with a friend of mine….so tonight I’m going to invite him out for coffee and get to the bottom of things. Hopefully. I’m hoping I have enough courage for that….

I feel like I’m being taken advantage of at work. The morning shift didn’t do all of their work and it was left to me. It took me 2 hours to get everything straightened out, because not only was it not done, but it was a mess as well. I really didn’t know what to do about it, and I’m not going to see my boss again until Thursday…so I did the only thing I could think of to get my message across and wrote a letter. I feel bad, because I don’t want to cause any trouble or tattle on my co-workers, but this isn’t the first time I’ve been expected to take responsibility for other people.

I said that today’s actions where unacceptable and that cleaning up after my co-workers is not in my job description. I decided to stand up for myself, and for that I feel good, but I feel bad that I had to call others out on their bullshit to do it. I guess that’s part of being assertive?

but I need to remember the whole balance thing. I don’t want to go overboard with it!

I’m pretty excited about it. Being assertive has always been kind of a hard thing for me, so I really want to learn how to do it with grace and dignity. So far, I’m not doing so bad!