learn to flirt

I’m finding that many people are unaccustomed to flirting. They don’t know how to respond and often assume they’re being ‘hit on’ in a more intentional way. They either withdraw from the interaction, or become too aggressive, wanting to pursue a relationship.

So, be mindful of flirting in the workplace or elsewhere where you’ll continually run into the same people. If you’re not looking for a relationship, keep the flirtation light and general.

Flirting can be fun, and doesn’t have to lead to something more serious. Living life in a flirtatious manner can make the life of everyone you touch more enjoyable, including yours.

I think the first step in learning to flirt is watching a small child. Have you ever noticed how attracted people are to babies & toddlers? How these little tikes seem to have a natural flirt ability? Their smiles come from the heart…they’re genuinely interested in the interaction.

Opportunities to flirt abound, whether it be with the check-out clerk, someone you’re standing in line behind, or someone you’re talking with at a party. This casual flirting gives you a natural boost and makes the other person feel good, too.

Too often we go through the day thinking only of ourselves & our issues. Frustrations are visited on unwary bystanders…service seem too slow at the coffee shop? The flower shop doesn’t have the particular flowers you want? Do you lash out and make the other person feel impotent? Or do you smile & adapt to the situation?

A little bit of flirting with everyone you meet makes your day & theirs brighter. There doesn’t need to be any ‘intent’ behind the flirt. Again, think of the toddler who gives you that winning smile just because you’re looking at him or her.