Ok, so after the whole thing with him, in whom I thought I’d found what I was looking for, I feel further qualifications need to be made.
Interested applicants MUST be willing to care enough about US that if he ever finds that there’s some problem he’s having, with me or with us or whatever, he should BRING IT UP so we can try to solve it TOGETHER. There will be NONE of this “I’m having a problem with us, so I’m going to try to solve it on my own without letting her know there’s a problem, and if I can’t solve it on my own then that means we’re done” bull. Part of what the word “relationship” implies is that problems should be solved together. If you’re too much of a coward to bring up something that you see as an issue to me, I don’t want to deal with you.
Also, I need COMPLETE honesty in my man and in our relationship. If you’re having a problem with me, be honest about it. If I’m doing something that seriously bugs you, be honest. If you suddenly decide you’ve had enough of being a nice, sane guy, and want to try being an asshole for a while, at least do me the favor of being honest with me about why. I don’t want to have to deal with all the shit I’ve been going through ever again.
All this isn’t to say that I’m looking for someone along this line right now. Quite to the contrary, I don’t want to have to deal with guys (in this manner) or relationships or this goal in general for a long while. This is just a small rant. Please excuse the rant.
