Get through the next few months without going insane, deeply depressed or have high anxiety levels.Get through the next few months being gently assertive, giving myself some space & emotionally well !

No contact with S’s inlaw’s for over a month now.
No more ridiculous, petty phone calls too.
The solicitors still sorting his estate.
So its slow going, but not problematic.
YeY.

thankfully there is a lull in activity.
The solicitors are busy earning lots of money trying to sort out the will, being as they are executors.
Im so thankful we have not had any more snide phone calls about when the money will be paid to certain parties.
I was beyond curteous & getting angry.
So, these have stopped as they were redirected to the solicitors who actually have that infomation.
Unlike me, whom is only sheilding my Mum.
Phew !
Ive had some good talks with Mum & have convinced her to get away for a break soon.
All her sisters live in the Northeast & a few weeks surrounded by family will do her the world of good.
She needs to get some distance from all the ‘hassle & bitterness’ we are encountering & be able to actually grieve.
Hope the sun continues to shine too, because that helps a lot. She’s been able to potter in her garden & get some space and thinking time. I am certain we can get through this.
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Im doing ok with this.
The funeral last week was difficult, been helping Mum as much as I can.
Trying to deflect the anger & negativity of others is tiring but im determined not to let it drag me down.
Let them squabble & fight amongst themselves, as long as my family are free from this greed & bitterness I dont care.My husband, son, brother & family and Mum are the ones I care about, we will all get through this intact.
Maybe stronger for it.

in which to scream !

Ok. Things in my family are not going well.
My Mum’s ‘partner’ of 8 years died this week after a very rapid illness of a month in which he had bowel cancer.
My Mum is distraught.
Myself & my only brother never really bonded with him, but kept quiet about the snide remarks from him, because after all our Mum was happy & we are grownups.
Ive spent the week supporting Mum & helping all I can, which has been exhausting, but ok.
Unfortunately, yesterday his will was read & the S* really has hit the fan!
He has left a lot ( & I mean A LOT ) of money to one of my Mums grandchildren & not the others (She only has 3 !!!) For no reason any one can fathom.
He has left another very large sum for his only sister & nephew but nothing for the neice, from the same family!
He has two step-children whom he has left nothing.
And on it goes….Blah !
Without going into private details, its like he’s made things as bad for all concerned as he can.
My poor Mum is cracking up, some people dont want his money whilst others want to contest to get all they can !
My god,its a nightmare.
I am going to TRY to keep as objective as I can. I have no interest in the money or who gets what. It was his to leave, but I question his motives in not treating the children & his own family equally.
So….. I need some strength, space & normality to get me through the next few months.
Luckily my son & husband help with these things, but perhaps a few cheers along the way will help me too.
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