Overcome my fear of driving

I wasn’t afraid of learning to drive at 16 but a series of incidents at that time made me very afraid to the point of having a phobia behind the wheel. While on a lesson, a relative teaching me to drive almost ran someone down. During lessons with a “formal” instructor, I found the experience daunting because I basically received no instruction until he slammed on the emergency brake and then I had to tell him what I did wrong. My final driving lesson involved a police officer who actually held up traffic for 5 minutes telling me I had no right to be on the road because I was holding up traffic (I hesitated 1 min max (!) for a delivery truck. I finally received my license at the age of 41. I almost gave up for good after my second road test. The examiner was hostile to the point of verbal violence while I was taking the road test. It seems like a series of unfortunate conditioning incidents that has caused me to approach driving behind the wheel with such trepidation! Then I have so-called wellmeaning relatives and friends who have nothing better than to remind me it’s not normal not to drive, but I think it makes them feel better. Whatever. I have no problem as a passenger, strangely enough.