Draco in Montgomery County is doing 36 things including…

find a best friend

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A best friend? 4 months ago

I hesitate to draw any conclusions, but there is this girl. I’ve known her for about a year now. We first met at a party last summer and sort of hit it off, but didn’t really start calling each other on the phone until several months after. Now we talk every day; she’s in my T-Mobile Fave5, and she has free T-Mobile to T-Mobile calling, so we can talk all we want, sometimes several times a day. When I say “bye” to her, I know it’s only temporarily. My monthly cell statement usually shows we spend about eighteen hundered minutes on the phone each pay period. But that’s the beauty of unlimited calling.

She works part-time at a clothing store; I work part-time at a grocery store. She’s taking summer classes and so am I. She drives; I drive. We have very much in common and because of that, we fit into each other’s lives practically like matching puzzle pieces. She and I laugh together and we listen to each other’s pain and struggles. We both had horrible experiences at separate high schools, times that we’d love to forget and have kept secret from everyone except each other. We complain about the world together and think about the future. We go out to eat a lot. We have a favorite restaurant that we frequent each weekend.

Recently she and I went on a trip way out to the countryside and spent the night at a little motel, just for us two. We felt good because we each split the cost and paid with the hard money we worked so hard for. This trip was entirely platonic, with separate beds, because I am gay and she is a girl. However, if she were a man I feel like this would be my soul mate. We joke about it constantly; we’re both so miserable on the dating scene that even there we can connect and comfort each other. I love her, and I have never had a friend I’ve been so close to and so happy and comfortable with.

The smiles and laughs we share are so priceless to me. Sometimes she says she’s so fed up with being single and having bad dates that if we each don’t meet somebody by the time we’re fifty, we’ll have to agree to have a platonic marriage, to just be life partners and make each other happy as nobody else could do. I could see that.



I am a guy... think about this 3 years ago

and I’ve never truly had a best friend, even though I want a person like that in my life more than anything. I’ve read some entries below, and I see a lot of people would value having a member of the same sex be their best friend, because best friends of the same gender can share a special relationship, like “sisters” or “brothers.”

The problem is that most guys I know do not warm up to the idea of getting closer to a guy like me who just wants a great friendship. Most guys move away from another guy who seeks any form of intimacy, whether it be spending more quality time together or talking about difficult feelings.

I think I’ve gone sort of crazy over that delema, as lots of people now consider me as either gay or strange, and at first I didn’t think of myself that way, but I realized that our modern society doesn’t accept this sort of behavior, and me desiring a closeness to another guy and intimacy, such as a true friendship, has labeled me as a gay person.
Is that fair?



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