talk less, listen more

I mean that I really feel that I have progressed in this. It goes to show in these weird moments when I realise I’m on the phone with for instance my Omi and she is doing the talking, the telling how her day went. I don’t know if bf would agree that I have become quieter (in a good way), but I certainly feel like the whole world does not have to know about everything I think, do and feel anymore. If they ask me, fine. I simply have stopped volunteering my innermost thoughts to the bus driver, if you catch my drift. Of course I will be posting some things here on 43T, but I think this is a whole different cattle of fish. You guys who read this want to know, otherwise you would not be reading this very entry right now. It’s not that anything is keeping you from clicking on a more interesting link. I find myself reading more on 43T than posting as well. This has, for the greater part to do with me being more interested in what others go through, and learning from their mistakes but also my recognition in their perfectly valid points of view and my appreciation of their thoughts. I feel like a crust around me has broken open and I am less self centered in my thinking. It also makes me realise that I miss friendship in my life. But that’s a whole different story.

Is it a maturity thing or am I really getting better at this? I just find myself more and more often shutting up or asking people questions, rather than blurting out the things I’ve said before and I think I know well.
I’ll keep an eye on this but will mark it as “done” if I don’t make a balls of it again in the next weeks.

More incidents keep happening where I am just phasing in and out… I REALLY gotta work on this.

I ask a question, then I don’t listen to the answer… This realisation isn’t very pleasant.

Since I added this to my 43things (yesterday!!!), I am really paying attention. Hmmmm, maybe that’s because 43things is still new to me? We’ll see.