defeat time, distance, and negative attitudes to make it through my long distance relationship while continuing to fall in love more and more

First of all, I must tell you that I really appreciate all your comments; you gave me a lot of elements to analyze and consider, in the midst of my confusion, it was great to feel your company. Thank you all! ( Sorry for not answering to each one of you).
I talked to him, I was very honest and told him how I felt about the whole situation. First, he felt rejected, he adopted a defensive position stating that I preferred a cat over him. I asked him if he was harboring another issue (I had gone out with H. one day before he started all the cat discussion) and we discussed for hours. It was 3:00 a.m in the morning when we arrived to a peace treaty:
- No more ultimatums.
-He could live with Pulqui if I accept that he doesnt’t like him.
-Although he doesn’t share my opinion about pets and the way they should be treated , he accepts that I love my cat and that he is important for me.
-Both of us have some personal issues, we are both seeking for constant reassurance about our mutual feelings. So, we agreed to work to have more confidence in ourselves and in this love.

What can I say? I love him and I believe in second chances, I’ll keep my eyes open though…

^{The Image is “Reach for the moon” from Nicole Wong at http://thesundaypainter.blogspot.com}

I was ashamed to write about what is happening to me in this moment, but I’m drawning in my own thoughts and I need to give vent to my feelings.
My love and I were chatting, I told him that my cat had killed a bird.
He said that my cat was spoiled and the he doesn’t want to live with a cat like that. He’s going to be in Tokyo for 3 years, so our relationship is long-distance, there’s no way that my cat can bother him now. He wrote me a very long e-mail telling me I had to choose between my cat and him. I love my cat like a son, he said that he couldn’t understand that I love an animal as if it were a person, he said that my love for my cat was sickish.
When he was here before getting engaged (he gave me a ring and everything) I asked him if Pulqui, my cat, could live with us and he said that there wasn’t any problem with that. Now he has changed his mind and he put me in a very difficult position.
The problem is not my cat, the problem is that he doesn’t love me unconditionally and that hurts a lot.
After several hours of negotiation we arrived to a “solution”: I can keep my cat as long as I don’t tell my boyfriend anything about Pulqui…and if in any hypothetical future we live together some day, Pulqui would be allowed to live with us as long as Pulqui behaves. Which according to my boyfriend means: no climbing on beds or tables, and no jumping on visitors. I love my boyfriend, so I agreed to that “solution”, but I woke up this morning feeling angry with him. I believed that loving someone implies accepting a person as she or he is… and I am a woman who has a cat.
I feel lost and confused.

^{The Image is Cat lean by the amazing Nicole Wong at http://thesundaypainter.blogspot.com}

..this stormy weather in my life the words of my love have been a soothing medicine. I feel his company through the distance.

I need to learn to relax, I need to take things less seriously, to avoid feeling attacked by every silly comment or action. Keeping a long distance relationship is not easy, my chat moments cannot become a space for discussions and tears. When you chat,things like intonation are not present and that can affect the way you interpret things. My heart is aching because of that discussion I had, I feel guilty,sad … but I will try hard not to let this bad moment ruin everything.