Robert Green has a the book sectioned off into Types of Seducers, Types of Victims, and The Process by which to going about seducing someone. It is a great read, and I would recommend it. However, it doesn’t directly pertain to this Goal. One part I anted to share, though was the Anti-Seductive qualities. Greene emphasizes in his work that people’s imperfections can be very attractive, these negative qualities however are not:
-The Brute (impatience)
-The Suffocator (desperation characterized by over-enthusiasm, clingyness, extreme imitation)
-The Moralizer (criticism and judgement)
-The Tightwad (cheapness)
-The Bumbler (self-consciousness)
-The Windbag (prattling endlessly generally about oneself)
-The Reactor (extreme sensitivity characterized by close attention to any negative implications, insecurity and often leads to whining and complaining)
-The Vulgarian (self-absorbed characterized by the inability to pay attention to others details)
These are all traits that repeal others and should be rooted out at all costs.
My acting caoch described me as this. And then the guy in my scene said I reminded him of, what I think is, the song “Cold as Ice”. Lovely, well quite frankly I am not going to start believing in love just accomplish this goal. hmph…
I started wearing soft fabrics to seem soft and approchable. It seem to be working.
I was at a kick-back… ok rather than stating an entire story I will say I need to be nicer to guys who are intrested in me. If I am not conviced I am interested in someone I am cold. This wouldn’t be so bad except it takes me a while before I will begin to genuinely intrested, with some special exceptions.
Oh and I need to warm up quicker in uncomortable environments.
I beleive charsma is a case of exstreme confidence both in yourself and in others. I need to work on the others part.
I have had a random boost in confidence latly and I beleive it has helped somewhat. I am attractive to some extent so people are drawn to me because people like being around pretty people. However, I can warm up to them without any akwardness on my part. Yay! I have always had an easy time making friends, but what little shyness resides deep within me to pop up at inopertune (yes, I spelled that wrong) moments seems to be dissapating!
I have very loud voice, which I think may be may subconcious attempt to incorperate everyone into my conversations or a responce to having to repeat myself to my mom (I thinkI have been loud since before that though). So I had a Saterday school and the teacher had such a loud voice that I am considering trying to lower mine. It was so grating that, especially since I was tired. I want to tey to be quiter because I think people will enjoy my company more.
I have heard that a person’s name is the sweetest word in their language. I am terrible with names. I thimk my frist step toward this goal would be to work on learning names better. After that I suppose I would need to start touching people while I speak, which if done wrong can come off just plain creepy.