”..you paint that shit gold!!”—a good friend of mine.
As is expected, some unexpected things happened and I didn’t leave the state after I graduated. I stuck around, got a lousy job and applied to grad school. It didn’t make sense for me to spend the money I didn’t have to move to a place I’d probably leave in a year for grad school anyway. So here we are, laaaate March 2011, and I have been rejected from 3/4 schools I applied to. The remaining is in NYC, where my boyfriend happens to be from.
He and I have decided that regardless of whether I get in to this program or not, we’re moving to The City together. He is about to finish his PhD and is becoming increasingly disenchanted with academia, while I’m dealing with the personal tragedy of suddenly and unexpectedly losing my father.
At this point, I’m 24 years old and both of my parents are gone (mom died when I was 11). I have one brother and a sister-in-law and I’m not particularly close to any cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. My family feels tiny. Following my boyfriend (of two years and one month) back to his home in NYC feels like the thing to do; it feels like there really isn’t much holding me back here aside from a few amazing friends. Besides, I plan to go into archival/historical work, and NYC will offer me a lot more opportunities than Michigan.
In the last couple years, I’ve actually come to love Michigan more. It’s really gorgeous in some parts, and I have a lot of hope that we can bring ourselves back from this crap recession and do well in the future. I also have a lot of hope and love for Detroit. Lots of people seem to forget that it was once beautiful and powerful.
So in a sense I feel like I’m jumping ship and bailing on a state that needs me, but at this point, I have to do what’s best for myself and I think that means leaving my Mitten for NY, where I’ll have more opportunity and be able to build up a fresh life.
Expected time of moving: late July.