but sometimes it ends a pointless fight, where i feel like by “stooping” i am being the bigger man. thoughts? am i that wacked?
example: we were going to go to this party and my friend volunteered to drive, then a couple hours before she was like okay i dont want to go. so naturally i was a little disgruntled, cause everybody else would have to change their plans to accomodate her sudden change of heart. and she was mad that i was mad?? but i didnt even yell or anything, i was just like ugh could you have said something before, that sucks, etc.
then she hung up on me, and i called her back and sort of apologized, “do whatever you want,” etc. /explaining why i was upset, but sorry for overreacting…
i was absolutely not sorry. but i feel like if we’d stayed mad (because she wouldnt apologize) it would have been completely pointless. she ended up re-changing her mind and we went through with our prior plans.
so the complete righteousness of this “thing” vs. the ultimate cost and benefit of going through with it?
my other friend critisized me for it (cruelly, really. i hate people who apply morals to everything even if it gets them to a bad place where they dont want to be) like i cant believe you caved, blah blah. and on the one hand he’s right, and on the other hand, results.
i, do not know.