Say I love you to my family members

my family fight like cats and dogs… they argue about everything and at every ocasion they open old cans of worms.. it will start with a family bash event and 2 people start fighting, then another joins in and then another and before you know it, there a war!!! and then old things get bought up and they fight over that.. in the end they storm out and the event is over or only a couple left.. every time this happens, so i never call or ask them for anything, i never do anything for them and i live in a different state.. cant be bothered with it, its negative engery and it sux but what can you do.. there is a huge history of violence and alcohol and thats the bottom line… so were just gonna end up like we have all grown apart and missed all time together.. oh well tough shit i guess!