Be less shy

I wouldn’t consider myself “shy” anymore. some advice for everyone out there who is trying to be less shy: just relaxxxxx. I know its easier said than done, but if you try and talk to someone new or talk to someone at all it makes it MUCH easier the next time around. I used to get nervous around new people, i still do every once in a while but it is rare.

However, I am refusing to take this goal off my list until i go up to a certain random someone i have never met before and start a conversation in the hall =]

today i did really good. i smiled at a bunch of people and said hi to people in the halls. in one of my classes i turned around and started talking to this guy and we pretty much hit it off.

but then this girl started talking about me so i told her to stop talking shit blah blah blah, and the guy i was talking to told her to leave me alone! hah. it was cool.

I’ve also noticed a big difference in how nervous i am. i am no longer constantly nervous around people. The only time that i’m nervous is when i’m trying to have conversation with someone but we have nothing to talk about.

okayyy so today i smiled at a bunch of people…blah blah. Umm i imbaressed the shit out of myself in class, but at the end of the day i felt good because i took risks and talked to people.

okay so i think that shyness is just fear. And i think that most fears exist only because you havent gotten used to whatever it is. like heights or something.

so i think that if i maybye just get used to talking to people eventually i won’t be very shy. but i dont know how long “eventually” will take.

my thing is that i get nervous around people who are outgoing. i have absolutely no problems with people who are shy but i get extremely nervous and self conscious around more outgoing and freespirited people. which, ironically is the exact opposite thing i want to do.

I allways end up doing the whole smile and nod at everything you say bit. it’s really awful.

i dont know, i think it might just be im really self conscoius around those people or something.

i want to be comfortable, but every time i try to be comfortable i end up being less comfortable… ugh. advice?