It’s October 1st.
It’s been an amazing summer. There has been so much great stuff that has happened to me this summer. Quite a few things stand out for me.
1. My family reunion /wedding. It just felt like such a fulfilling experience because I went in with a new attitude of appriecating my cousins and aunts and uncles as unique, amazing and part of my world. It was awesome to begin there.
2. Doing a research study in Ghana. As the experience is settling in. I’m realizing how much it’s expanded my worldview. I’m seeing things from another perspective. My eyes are open to how my experience and culture isn’t the center of the everyone’s experience. I also have felt enormous support from my family and friends.
3. I’m more active than ever. I’ve started up physical activities I used to do in my 20’s. I laugh as I say I”ve reawakened my inner athlete. I’m playing tennis regularly, I’m biking to work. I went backpacking last weekend. I love it. I’m exhausted today and sore from yesterday’s trip, but I fel great!
4. Having my mom visit and us having a great time. We did fall back in some old roles, but I came out of it all feeling like we have renewed our friendship.
I may have strived for other goals, and my intentions a little different, but it truly has been a new and fulfilling summer.
Well, I was thinking about my dating goal for September. I replyed to an interesting Craig’s list ad, .. It’s not exactly a big jump in dating, but it’s a statt…., I was actually quite hopeful, still did go in with some emotional protection, knowing it’s a shot in the dark.
After sending a response and a picture, the guy sent back a very nice , yet clear email, that he’s not interested. So new experience? yes.. fulfilling.. well, no.
I posted some of my video clips on YouTube from my trip. I’m so pysched I figured it out. I still need to play with it a little more, but I am so excited.
Some film clips from my trip to Ghana
School yard game..
In May, I won tickets for a 20 minute scenic sea plane ride around the city. I’ve always wanted to ride in a small plan. I think it’ll be new and fulfilling. I’ve got reservation for a ride tonight. I was hoping to combine it with my dating goal.( Using it as a first date,) But I have a relative in town and I think I’ll use it on them. I’m going to push my dating goal over to Oct.
I’m ready to check in.
It’s been an amazing experience.
July… I worked and traveled in Ghana.
Auguest I was supposed to go to Kenya, but decided to stay in Ghana and really travel more. Kenya needs to happen at a different time. I still have a few days of Aug. to figure out if I’ve done something new in Aug. It was certainly fulfilling month because I was still working in Ghana.
September was that I actually put some effort into dating. Let’s hope that’s fulfilling. It certainly feels challenging.
I posted my Jun, July and Aug new and fulfilling experiences. The one that has been sticking in my head all week is to finally try match.com. or some on line dating.
I think I'm going broaden it a little. I"m going to make it an dating campaign for myself. It's sounds a little desperate, but I've realized my style of meeting men doesn't work. They seem to see me as a friend or a buddy.
My mom told me when she was growing up, her parents pressured her to marry and always made her feel bad if she wasn't pursuing a husband or boyfriend. She hated that. She promised herself she'd never pressure her daughters and would instill in us that we didn't need a man to make us happy. We could make it on own. I am very grateful for that message and it's shaped me into an independent and capable woman.
BUT, it’s also made me believe I didn’t need a partner. I could do it alone. I seemed to have to prove I could go it alone. I need to continue to deconstruct those messages and decide what I want to keep and what I want to let go. I think September will be the time to truly pursue a dating campaign, that will be filled with a lot of life lessons I’m sure.
Kind of like Bruno said, this goal has good timing for me also. Fits in well.
In July, I’m traveling to Ghana to work as an evaluator of an NGO. First time in Africa, first time as researcher/ evalutator. Yikes
In Aug. , I’m traveling to Kenya for the first time.
In Sept. I’m not sure what it’ll be exactly, but I think I’m going to venture into Match.com and try online dating. Staying home on the couch , waiting for someone to call, isn’t generating much results in the finding romance. We’ll see!