There is nothing personal about suffering. Everyone suffers but it is not personal.Don’t react to the fact there is suffering.The second insight: Suffering should be understood.Instead reacting to suffering; really look at it, embrace it, accept it. The third is that suffering has been understood. One has experienced suffering, looked at it, accepted it, know it and let it be what it is. I think the cycle of learning and understanding suffering needs to be an awareness incorporated into daily life. Tonight while washing dishes and cooking supper, I was angry at my husband for not helping me. I was suffering and blaming him. I stopped myself and looked at it objectively. I stopped reacting and felt immediately better. it was my thoughts that were causing me pain not my husband. I chose to cook and wash dishes. I then chose to enjoy my tasks and have been happy the rest of the evening. I chose not to allow my thoughts to make myself suffer. Very important lesson learned.
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I dreamed that I was going to be the first woman to row a boat from the river near home to the ocean which is around a 3 hour drive. Probably several days by row boat. I don’t remember the details but I endured many hardships. I was detained a week after being washed out into the Atlantic Ocean. When I arrived, I was at a university that was also a Buddhist temple. There were monks there waiting to speak to a higher monk. My parents were there. I didn’t feel pain around them. My father was in a room full of beautiful gold Chinese relics. I knew he had a past life in China and he clung to this past. But it was okay. An understanding about him passed on to me. I moved on to my mother but she wasn’t as I know her now. Because of the patience and hardships I endured in the row boat, I felt a patience and compassion for her I haven’t felt before. It made her seem calmer, deeper and kinder as well. I felt like I was enough to both of them. They didn’t hate each other anymore. It was all part of a master plan. Then I knew what it was all about. I was preparing to face the Buddha presence.The Buddha within me. It was my turn in line with the monks to learn more about dealing with the suffering in life. I woke knowing that life is suffering. It doesn’t mean that something is wrong with me if I cannot resolve all the suffering in the world. It just is. Meditate on it. Be aware. Relax. Suffering has always been and always will be. I can’t do anything to change it but I can stop tormenting myself about my helplessness and do the things I can. I can let go. If I can let go, be detached then I can know peace and compassion.
I think one of my major issues is keeping my mind from relapsing into thought about things that upset me. Learning about mindfulness and practicing the breath give my mind something to play with. I am reading “you are here” by Thich Nhat Hanh. It practically fell off the shelf at the book store. I have been practicing, “I am breathing in-
I am happy. I am breathing out-I smile.” All week. I do think my mental attitude is improving. I like some of the things he says about Buddhism. I have heard some for many years but did not realize it was Buddhist. I also like what he says about any place that does have compassion and understanding is hell. Life is suffering, yes. But suffering leads to transformation. Transformation leads to understanding and understanding leads to compassion. If there is a reason for bad things to happen then it is easier for me to deal with them.
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