learn to trust

This is such a hard one to do.
I have just finished with my bf because of my trust issues and it has broken my heart. I wanted to trust him, but things didnt add up. I wanted to work on it but he thought it was too far gone, which I guess was right.
I have been so scared of letting someone into my heart again, and when I do it all ends badly. I’m worried that I made it go wrong because of my issues. It definitely didnt help things, but I guess I woulda suspected it at some point.
I just wana find that person that doesnt make me feel this way. He obviously wasnt the right one but its just made me more scared of letting anyone else in again.
Do people have to earn your trust? Or should you trust everyone unless proven otherwise? If you doubt trusting someone then are you just making it come true?

It’s so weird how you think you can trust someone but they are so sneeky and manipulative that you don’t see what they are really like and you shouldn’t trust them at all.
I’m not sure that he knows that he is doing it though.

A few months ago I starting seeing this guy at uni and it was going good. Then one day he turns around and says that he has heard stuff and people are saying that he shouldn’t be seeing me. I don’t know if I should have but i went into investigation mode and could not find anyone that I knew that he knew the guy well enough for the topic of us to be discussed. Things went weird with this guy and I never really found out who or what was said.

So last night I was talking to one of my old mates from uni and he starts saying that he likes me and stuff and says that we should go out. So I’m all excited by this cos I think I like him too. I tell my mate that I have a date but not who with. So today I talk to this guy and he says that someone has said something to him. But he actually tells me who it was.

Thinking about it, I reckon it was him before too. I thought we were good mates and I could trust him and didn’t have to tell him to not say things to people. Turns out I really can’t. I don’t know why he is doing it. Jealousy?

I feel a mixture of anger and betrayal, and sadness cos I woke up happy for the first time in ages this morning and now its all gone to shit once again. One thing for certain is that I ain’t telling him fuck all ever ever again.

I have just been proven that i can’t trust anyone.
why am i right back to where i started?
i think i have one friend who i can trust, but tbh this past day has just brought all of my trust issues to the surface again.
i’m just not sure what i am meant to do

I thought i found someone to trust, but once again i have been shown that i cant
still searchin…

Something happened in my relationship with my ex and I lost all my trust in him.
But it didn’t jst affect our relationship, it made me lose my trust in everybody. Even with my friends and family.
I always thought that they had an ulterior motive or they were didnt mean what they said and were just using me. It has affected me for years, but I’ve had enough!
Someone new has come into my life, and finally I am guna try and let go of this problem, cos I need my life to change. I wana be able to trust what they say and how they feel. but it is so hard.
I do have some anxiety sometimes, but as my friend keeps pointing out-he has done nothing wrong to you! you should trust him-and I really am guna try!