overcome vaginismus

Unfortunately, my wife is still in denial and thinks that the reason we can’t have sex is because I am not a real man. She thinks a real man can make his penis hard enough to break past her vaginal muscles. She refuses to admit there is any problem with her. I take all kinds of ED drugs to aid me, but she has only done the cylinders twice and the last time was like 2 years ago. And banging my penis against an impenetrable barrier just can’t keep me hard no matter how much Sildenafil I take. She just never seems to want to even be intimate with me. Not even intimate conversation. It’s just so depressing. I’m 36 years old and still a virgin. I just don’t know where I can turn! I wish there was a support group like Alinon for husbands of women with vaginismus.