help my husband find a job that is viable but does not make him miserable.

We took the job. I have a few reservations because it was the first job to come around but it did fit 9 out of 10 criteria so I’m feeling strangely peaceful about the decision. As for the rest of the stuff (the moving, the finding a new place to live, etc) I am super anxious. At least we can get the ball rolling. No more in total limbo. Now just partially in limbo, at least the bills are gonna all get paid on time. I’m glad this will be an instructing position because that will make my husband much happier, I think. After doing some research it looks like we’re getting a good salary for the type of position. Down side is still the massive debt we’re carrying and the cost of living is still on the high side.

He’s only been to one interview but it looks very promising. It’s in New England, which I wouldn’t mind moving to at all but I’m a bit worried about whether this is the best place, and best job for him. We’d be alone again. Salary isn’t bad but with debt and a high cost of living it’s still gonna take us a while to get financially fit. So the good thing is: we won’t be moving to my mom’s, and the bad thing is: we won’t be moving to my mom’s. Both of us are yearning for family and friends but having our own thing going is probably just as important. It’s a job my husband would enjoy much more than what he does now and there are lots of opportunities for things like- going back to school, owning a home, etc. . . He hasn’t gotten the offer yet but the recruiter said the company loved him and as long as the last interviewee isn’t any better, it looks good.

I’m at a bed and breakfast outside of Boston while my DH is interviewing. I could live here, it feels like Christmas hasn’t left this town. Though cost of living is pretty high so a bigger salary would be in order. We’ll see how he likes the company.

Sent off some emails to my uncles and people I know in the area we are moving to, asking them for any job knowledge, with a copy of his resume. It’s a long shot but you never know I may get some good advice.

So we’ve got a month to find something good otherwise the debt goes up. I think we’ll be fine. DH interviews great, his resume is clean and revised. He has three head hunters working with him. I’m gonna look up local websites since I know the area and see if there is anything that he would be interested in. He has an interview with one company with the perfect job (location, pay, and position) however he’s not really qualified for it. They really liked him in the phone interview so now he has three other guys to beat. Hopefully they aren’t qualified either. If that’s the case the job is his.

faxed an application for him. I’ll probably make a list of local companies that he may be interested in while he is gone. I wish he could get a job that he “loved,” unfortunately it wouldn’t pay as well as a job that he is qualified for and may not love. When we’re debt free he will have more opportunities to expand his career interests but now I guess we’re looking for a job he won’t completely hate.

I’m torn because we live where I’ve always wanted to live: New York city, but it’s not economically feasible so we have to move. I don’t want to move but I know that it’s what’s best for the family. It’s tough because if we move it will most likely be back in with my mom. My relationship with my mom is so complicated. I know it would benefit everyone because we would save money and help my mom. plus Vinny will have his grandma who is awesome with him, but at the same time that house is such a nightmare and I haven’t been able to have any closure with my mom on a really big thing that happened though she doesn’t seem to know it. At this point it would be easier to move somewhere random but I just can’t get the courage to follow through with it. I hate having to always please everyone. I love my family more than anything but I can’t help thinking if I wasn’t married with a baby I wouldn’t have to relive and rethink the bad things all over again and I would probably be living in some other continent in south America or Africa or Europe. Now I’m hope watching dvr recordings of “what not to wear” and judge judy.” Not at all what I pictured for myself but I feel to tired to do much more. I honestly don’t mind doing things for my son but it takes so much motivation to leave the house anymore. I don’t feel depressed (I would know since I went through it last year, meds and all) but I do feel like I’m losing a part of myself. And now I have to help my husband find a job somewhere I don’t even want to move to. On the plus side my bestest friend lives there and I miss her like crazy.

We are supposed to be moving to Northern Virginia in a few months so I guess it’s time to get this started again. Thankfully we only have to update his resume. Last year I thought he was gonna murder me when I gave him back his resume with red marks all over it for the sixth time. Though I have to brag that he later thanked me when an HR person gave it high marks. This time there is some extra pressure as I am now the stay at home mom rather than second income producer. Any way let the anxiety begin . . .