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wbmsic in Montreal is doing 11 things including…

create my own Happiness Project

15 cheers

 

wbmsic has written 9 entries about this goal

The newest additon

My Happiness Project reads like this now:

Remember, Balance, Trust, Constantly, Talk, Ask…

For more details, see my profile for the individual links and progress towards each sub category.



So what exactly IS a Happiness Project then?

A “happiness project” is an approach to changing your life. First is the preparation stage, when you identify what brings you joy, satisfaction, and engagement, and also what brings you guilt, anger, boredom, and remorse. Second is the making of resolutions, when you identify the concrete actions that will boost your happiness. Then comes the interesting part: keeping your resolutions.

http://www.happiness-project.com/happiness_project/2009/01/happiness-is-a.html



Found a new one

The latest version of the Project:

Remember
Balance
Trust (new)
Talk
Ask

I really like having these open ended key words, sometimes the actual goal is longer, but I like being able to summarize it quickly in one word snippets.

Also made my Happiness Project my New Years Resolution.



Keeping it simple

So I found that the whole quotes I like thing, wasn’t really getting to the essence of what a Happiness Project should be. Those are more like Truthes of Adulthood, which is another great idea, but not very useful in times of crisis. Then I realized that I should simplify some of my goals, because they were too narrow and that my Happiness Project was lurking in the individual goals that I had chosen.

So here’s what I have so far:

1- Remember [my ‘I’]
See: http://www.43things.com/entries/view/3432197

2- Talk:
See: http://www.43things.com/entries/view/3716628)

3- Balance
See: http://www.43things.com/people/progress/wbmsic/11938446

4- Ask [more often: Does this align with my values, goals and dreams?]
See: http://www.43things.com/people/progress/wbmsic/10952783

I suppose I could add:

-Love
-Dream

Into there, just because it sounds like it would round out the Project, but I’m not going to add terms just the sake of it, I’m going to wait until I find something that really ressonates with me.



Starting over

I’ve noticed that Gretchen’s mantras are simple and can be expanded. I also find that I don’t really remember the quotes that I’ve chosen in the past. So I want to start over…

1) Remember my ‘I’

See: http://www.43things.com/entries/view/3432197

2) Talk.

(EDIT: See: http://www.43things.com/entries/view/3716628)

This is open ended for a reason. It’s to remind me to do things like:

-talk to people randomly you never know where the conversation will go.
-stand up for myself when necessary

Those are the two I’ve done recently, but it’s open for more interpretation.



Stopping to remember the Project

I think that another step toward this being a sucessfully completed goal is actually being able to USE the Project when I’m upset.

I had a minor panic attack/crying fit/freak out/whatever you want to call it about moving yesterday and tried reaching for something to comfort me, a la CBT “This too will pass” style, but ended up reaching for two of my more familiar crutches and then was not pleased at myself for it.

Then again, I KNOW that this is a stressful time for me. I just have to remember to counter balance it any way I can.

Because, this too shall pass.

PS: Here’s a really great article on The Psychology of Happiness: 13 Steps to a Better Life The 20 minute video is definitely worth it as well.



One more mantra

“Everything I WE (EDIT: Aug 12th) do has a simple explanation”

From Paul McCartney’s Flaming Pie…

I’ve been listening to this song over and over again in the last little bit, just to hear that phrase. It’s my way of reminding myself that the logic behind what I do, is simply a series of simple steps.



Striking

The most important factors to me in choosing these statements is that they really:

Strike me as important
Comfort or uplift me when I say them, like a sort of calm washing over my being.

For example, when I’m freaking out about moving out, I can breathe in and go: In Jess we trust.

Today’s latest addition came from a journaling entry about needing to step back from drawing security from other people and the numbers in the bank. I reminded myself that I am a surviver, that I can survive with what life throws me, that I always have. So thinking about money lead to “In G-d we Trust” (even though I’m Canadian) which lead to my “Thou art G-d”, spiralling into it’s final form.

Hmm… maybe: “Hit the ground and keep running” would be another one. I also toyed with the idea of adding Carpe Diem or a varation there of.



10 mantras to create

So I’m working on having 10 mantras to focus on happiness…

Here’s what I have so far:

I would rather be happy than right. (Abraham-Hicks)
(It seems so exceptional that) Things just work out after all. (The song Ordinary Miracle by Sarah McLachlan)
To be able to say ‘I love you’ one must first be able to say the I. (The book The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand)
If you live like no one else, later you can live like no one else. (Quote by Dave Ramsey)
Thou art G-d (The book Stranger in a Stranger Land by Robert Heinlein)

EDITED (Aug 2nd) In Jess we trust.
6 down, 4 more to go…



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