date SMARTER

“Momma” and Mary Lou.

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why there aren’t any men with this goal?

By Gary Chapman

Stephanie just recommended this book, and it looks like a good one to me, so I wanted to share it over here. I visited the author’s website and it looks like there’s lots of other useful information for me to explore.

I’ll make sure to write an update after I’ve got the book and get it read.

I think you can take this goal off of your “I give up” list and mark it off as “I’ve done this”!!! _{does the happy dance because she has confirmed with LL that LL and her Fish Boy are getting hitched!!!}

I have to re-open this goal, in order to make a post

Why, do I always seem to end up dating the wrong men while the right men cruise right on by me. I can honestly say that of all the dating relationships I have had (meaning more than 1 date), there have been very few that people around me weren’t saying “what in the world is she doing with him”? Not that they all were jerks (though many of them honestly were, all joking aside), but they were men that I really didn’t have much in common with, on a lot of different levels. Meanwhile, there have been a lot of decent men in my life that have been really good friends. Several of which had the possibility of becoming more, but never did.

So why didn’t they? Due to some discussions on here, some in private, some reading, etc., I’ve been thinking about this a lot. One of the patterns I’ve realized is that even if I am really interested in someone, I tend to hold my feelings back and not let them know, unless it’s really obvious that they’re interested in me. And I mean really obvious. Sometimes I am so clueless, it’s pathetic. Sometimes it will be weeks or months down the road, long after the opportunity is gone, before it hits me. WHAM! So if the guy isn’t a mind reader, and is looking for a signal from me, he isn’t getting any. What this does is leave the more quiet, reserved, not-so-aggressive ones sitting there with puzzled looks on their faces, while the more aggressive ones, who don’t take no for an answer are getting my attention. Not that there is anything wrong with being more aggressive, in fact, it can be a very good thing. It just seems that in my case, the Mr. Rights seem to fit into the less-aggressive category.

So now that I’ve figured this out, the next step is to figure out what I’m going to do about it?

This book showed up on the sponsored links (Amazon), I’m curious if anyone has read it and what they thought of it?

I am only 55% Dateable!

That’s lower than the Worldwide Dateability Average of 62%!
You are neither more nor less dateable than your peers (HUH – didn’t they just tell me otherwise) Welcome to the land of mediocrity, home of the masses! You have an undeniable animal magnetism, but you’re just as likely to attract small animals as you are to attract human beings. Nevertheless, the people you flirt with generally find you funny and cute, or “fute.” You have good hygiene, which is an imporant aspect of relationships involving two or more people. Avoid seafood and walks in the woods.
Compared to 3,698,577 other test-takers…

15% less dateable than you — 4% like you — 81% more dateable than you

new team members!!!

Maybe I should have put this entry under this goal!