I wrote this entry one year ago and the task didn’t get easier. In fact it got harder once I entered into a serious relationship. When you love someone and you are physically attracted to them it is natural to want to share yourself with them. So how do you stay commited to abstinence?
Well first you have to commit yourself to God and prayer. You have to ask God daily to give you the strength to deny your flesh. It is truly a task for you and God to work out. Second, you need to be honest with your partner and let them know what you have decided to do and allow them to decide if they can handle the task. Don’t make the mistake of projecting your feelings on them or thinking they won’t understand. They may or may not. This is where your relationship with God comes in. Your commitment is to God and obedience brings about blessings (Isaiah 1:19). Never put any person above your commitment to God, it’s not worth it and they will only let you down.
In my case, I prayed about it sincerely and when I told my partner about my commitment, we got closer. He was not seeking to be abstinent at first, but God worked that out! His commitment to God and love for me helped him decide that God’s favor and our relationship was more important than short term pleasure. The enemy told me that once I stated my position, he would choose to leave. Although painful, I was prepared to deal with that, but God it worked out better than I ever expected.
Now it is still a daily struggle, don’t mistake it, but I know that as long as I stay connected to Christ I will be alright, with or without my current partner. I thank God for His favor because my friend and I are on the same page.
The wisdom that I would like to pass on is, don’t compromise! I have met plenty of guys who chose the easy route and left, but they don’t compare to the one I have now. Just line up with The Father and He will handle everything.
God Bless
