 I'm doing 40 things |
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figure out what i want to do with my life
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3,286 people |
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have a serious discussion about our future
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1 person |
| 3. |
be independent
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830 people |
| 4. |
take control of my life
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124 people |
| 5. |
uplift and encourage my boyfriend
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1 person |
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make a difference
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6,628 people |
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Develop a Vision Statement & Goal Plan for my Life
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56 people |
| 8. |
stop wasting time
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3,480 people |
| 9. |
be more creative
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1,614 people |
| 10. |
start writing again
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352 people |
| 11. |
create genuine intimacy
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6 people |
| 12. |
tell him I love him
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290 people |
| 13. |
get through my quarter-life crisis
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72 people |
| 14. |
inspire and be inspired
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272 people |
| 15. |
be fit and healthy
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88 people |
| 16. |
To live instead of exist
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10,630 people |
| 17. |
Practice random acts of kindness
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754 people |
| 18. |
Say "no" every time i feel like it and not feel guilty
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376 people |
| 19. |
be honest about my feelings
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34 people |
| 20. |
live passionately
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5,543 people |
| 21. |
live my values
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12 people |
| 22. |
be grateful
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218 people |
| 23. |
be closer to my brother
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64 people |
| 24. |
be true to myself
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412 people |
| 25. |
Learn the balance between Niceness and Doormat
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34 people |
| 26. |
Accomplish something every day
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24 people |
| 27. |
Stop caring what other people think of me
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3,888 people |
| 28. |
never stop learning
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| 29. |
overcome procrastination
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240 people |
| 30. |
be more confident
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9,840 people |
| 31. |
spend more time outside
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674 people |
| 32. |
Believe in myself
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1,129 people |
| 33. |
organize my clothes
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58 people |
| 34. |
Overcome the feeling that I am an immature, ugly, awkward little girl and envision myself as the beautiful, intelligent woman I have become
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5 people |
| 35. |
express my feminist ideals more
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15 people |
| 36. |
stop lending money out
1 entry . 1 cheer |
3 people |
| 37. |
Make the most of my 20's
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579 people |
| 38. |
Give 3000 cheers
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15 people |
| 39. |
reconnect with old friends
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431 people |
| 40. |
send more letters
1 entry . 3 cheers |
44 people |
How I did it: I applied for jobs day in and day out without fail, getting little to no response most of the time, until one day when I started getting interviews. Then I focused very hard on doing really well in the interview and then, wham, I had a job offer :) Read how I did it…
How I did it: I started this a few years ago when I moved away from home - sending letters every month or so as well as birthday/christmas/anniversery cards. They absolutely love it. Sadly, Grandma passed away this year, but one of the last things she said to me was how much she enjoyed my letters. Priceless. Writing a short letter really doesn't take as much time as it may seem. Do try it. It's well worth it. Read how I did it…
How I did it: I just sat down and tried to come up with things - sometimes it was easy, other times really hard - but I tried to do it regularly. And it's a great list to have - just look at it whenever you feel bad and you'll realise there are loads of things about you that are great. A real confidence booster! Read how I did it…
If he makes decisions like a single guy, he doesn’t really care about you and your relationship. You don’t want this to be true but it is.
Get this into your heart as well as your head and do what needs to be done. No matter how much it breaks your heart.
5 years ago (age 21, about to start university): Put more effort into making new friends at university. Join clubs, volunteer, whatever – don’t disappear into your new relationship. Experience university life to the full – you’ll regret later that you didn’t. Of course it’s exciting, he is your first proper boyfriend – but try to stay independent. You look lovely, stop trying so hard to be to be ‘perfect’. Being seen without make up is not the end of the world.
10 years ago (age 16, about to start college): Don’t focus all your energy on boys, they are not worth it. Things WILL get better, you will become prettier and you will find a lovely guy – don’t waste so much time worrying about it. Do what you want to do. Don’t be ashamed of the fact that you have good grades. You really don’t have to show that much flesh to be attractive. You are a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for. You look lovely, stop trying so hard to be to be ‘perfect’.
15 years ago (age 11): Try to stay a kid for just that little bit longer. Don’t let some random kid’s comments ruin your life for the next 10 years. It breaks my heart that you are already starting to hate yourself. Trust me, no one looks great at 11 and you do not look as horrible as they say or you think. That being said, get some proper acne medication, don’t waste your teenage years struggling with bad skin. And never feel bad about being smart.
20 years ago (age 6): You’re perfect as you are and even better, you know it. Enjoy this confidence, you’ll be spending the next 20 years trying to get back to it.
I have spent almost every day for the last 15 years (and I’m barely 26…)worrying about whether others think I am pretty, putting myself down for being ugly and above all, hoping and waiting for the day when I will go from ugly duckling to beautiful swan. And it hasn’t happen. Guess what? It never will! Simply because I don’t allow it to.
It doesn’t matter how much time and money I spend on trying to become prettier, more perfect. I look a million times better now than I did 10 years ago, but I don’t feel it. And that’s the key really. The most attractive people are not necessarily the most psychically perfect – they’re the confident, fun, positive ones – the ones that don’t need makeup to feel OK. The ones who sparkles and shines up any room. So until I find the confidence to feel pretty, I never really will be. No matter how small my waist is.
I wish I’d figured that out straight away, age 11, when these feeling first surfaced. I wish someone would have told me, really told me. Maybe then I could have spent more time and money on me rather than on my looks. Maybe then I could have felt OK by now.
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spiraljetty wants to Prioritize, Focus & Follow-Through
get motivated
start a school
Tell someone off completely
Get out of bed earlier
be a good mom
control my anxiety.
kochhas wants to read the Bible daily
Improve my posture
get a tan
Sing
take a dance class
bungee jump
get a helio
feel joy
Get married to the man I love
be a jedi
Practice Yoga
lunagirl388 wants to Join the Peace Corps
be a good friend
surf
Read 50 books this year.
take dance lessons
