I'm doing 41 things
I changed to this goal from something like “get fit” because I wanted to get away from the focus on being slim/toned and aim for healthy instead. Because I am already slim and I’m trying to get away from being so looks focused.
But as one of my main goals is be true to myself I’ll have to admit that while health and physical fitness for the sake of it is important to me, so is looking fit. I want to get more toned up, for me (and it truly is only for me because I’m pretty sure no one else will see any difference, or care). It might not be the ideal motivator (I’d like to be one of those people who only exercise because it makes them feel great) but at least it gets me moving.
And if my ambition to tone up and have more defined muscles lead to motivation to exercise more and so to health and strength and cardio fitness? Perfect. All roads leads to Rome…
loving each day's Life List
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1. figure out what i want to do with my life
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2. have a serious discussion about our future
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3. be independent
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4. take control of my life
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5. make a difference
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6. Develop a Vision Statement & Goal Plan for my Life
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7. stop wasting time
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8. be more creative
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9. start writing again
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10. create genuine intimacy
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11. get through my quarter-life crisis
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12. inspire and be inspired
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13. be fit and healthy
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14. To live instead of exist
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15. Practice random acts of kindness
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16. Say "no" every time i feel like it and not feel guilty
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17. be honest about my feelings
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18. live passionately
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19. live my values
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20. be grateful
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21. be closer to my brother
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22. be true to myself
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23. Learn the balance between Niceness and Doormat
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24. Accomplish something every day
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25. Stop caring what other people think of me
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26. never stop learning
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27. overcome procrastination
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28. be more confident
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29. spend more time outside
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30. Believe in myself
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31. organize my clothes
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32. Overcome the feeling that I am an immature, ugly, awkward little girl and envision myself as the beautiful, intelligent woman I have become
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33. express my feminist ideals more
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34. stop lending money out
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35. Make the most of my 20's
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36. Give 3000 cheers
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37. reconnect with old friends
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38. send more letters
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39. have better posture
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40. make someone smile every day
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41. encourage other people
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How I did it: I applied for jobs day in and day out without fail, getting little to no response most of the time, until one day when I started getting interviews. Then I focused very hard on doing really well in the interview and then, wham, I had a job offer :) Read how I did it…
How I did it: I started this a few years ago when I moved away from home - sending letters every month or so as well as birthday/christmas/anniversery cards. They absolutely love it. Sadly, Grandma passed away this year, but one of the last things she said to me was how much she enjoyed my letters. Priceless. Writing a short letter really doesn't take as much time as it may seem. Do try it. It's well worth it. Read how I did it…
How I did it: I just sat down and tried to come up with things - sometimes it was easy, other times really hard - but I tried to do it regularly. And it's a great list to have - just look at it whenever you feel bad and you'll realise there are loads of things about you that are great. A real confidence booster! Read how I did it…
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I work full-time, I live on my own (just me! In a flat! And I’m managing really well!), I manage my money, I make all my decisions. So for the first time, I can honestly say I am completely independent.
Now I just need to get out of my emotional dependence (needing others’ approval, feeling I NEED him when he so obviously does not need me, being unable to think up a future of what I really want that is not completely focused on a man and babies) and I’d truly be able to put this as done.
Money isn’t everything, and not that important to me anyway, I’m not a big spender even when I’ve got it – but at the moment, when rent and bills are paid there really isn’t much let. And I want to be able to do more, see more people, travel more – basically just enjoy life more.
I’m looking around for a cheaper (smaller) flat to rent from next month when my contract ends. I hate moving, I hate all the little things that comes with moving (all the phone calls you have to do to change address erc) but it will be worth it. It will give me the chance to be more living and less just existing.
