I'm doing 38 things
That Pesky Question
18 months ago
My favorite response to people who ask me, “When are you getting married?”...
“When are you going to die?”
Never fails to shut them up.
BeFree2008's Life List
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1. bungee jump
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2. To live instead of exist
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3. live passionately
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4. balance my life
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5. live simply
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6. be free
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7. find my spiritual self
10 people -
8. stop caring about what others think of me
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9. Read one book a month
708 people -
10. run my photo through age progression
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11. NOT get married
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12. own my own house
536 people -
13. get a raise
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14. Sleep more
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15. get things done
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16. live
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17. dance
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18. Own a car
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19. wake up when my alarm clock goes off
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20. be more patient
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21. identify 100 things that make me happy (besides money)
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22. Get a tattoo
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23. pay off my student loans
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24. Take more pictures
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25. Read more books
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26. pay my bills
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27. be happy
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28. travel
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29. Be on time
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30. Learn to say no
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31. learn to say no without feeling guilty
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32. spend a day at a spa
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33. get out of debt and stay out of debt
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34. Get a massage once a month
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35. Go to graduate school
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36. Take the GRE
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37. Learn Spanish
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38. Work out more
846 people
Recent entries
When people ask "Why not?"
22 months ago
It’s inevitable: When you tell someone “No”, they will at least wonder to themselves about why you can’t. Some even feel it is within their right to ask this aloud to your face.
It can irritate people to no end, but responding with a simple “Because” can do wonders.
And if they ask “Because why?”... give them the most obvious of answers, like “Because I’m not going” or “Because I’m not doing it”.
Or another alternative to the “Because why?”, or if they continue to prod after telling them the obvious answer, you can politely smile and ask “Why do you need to know?”
It will piss people off. It will irritate them. It will make them think you are selfish or secretive.
But here are two things to consider:- They’re probably already annoyed with the fact that you’ve said “No” to begin with, and
- Aren’t they bringing it on themselves to some degree by being overtly nosey?
I struggle with this constantly. Constantly. This is the best solution I have come up with, as of yet, and would love to here more suggestions.
